Oh, these friends are our loved ones! Often ladies confess "I hate my husband's best friend, he always comes on time and brings with himself some problems." These ladies can only sympathize - a friend is not a bottle of beer, you can not take it to a dump. But in a more difficult situation are those women whose best friend is deeply sympathetic. And it's not about cases where people just like it, we're talking about the ladies who dream of a romance with a friend of their husband.
I want a friend of my husband - what should I do?
Try to confess to a friend "fell in love with my husband's best friend" and see what happens. Most likely you will begin to "set your brains", advising you to forget about the subject of passion as quickly as possible. Although another option is possible, if the girlfriend is not burdened with moral principles, then the council may be tempted to get rid of it. But what is the best way out of the situation?
To answer this question, you need to understand the situation in more detail. After all, they are different, and you can not consider all women who want to have sex with her husband's best friend simply by depraved persons.
"I do not like my husband, but I want his friend"
We all know about the stories, when marriages are made by stupidity, "on the fly", and the spouses, after a while after the wedding, understand that a joint life does not give them any joy. In this case, to condemn a woman for falling in love with another man, even a friend of her husband, is rather difficult. True, for the husband this argument is unlikely to be important, but because you still have to play with your lover in spies - turn-out, passwords and other delights of double life will be with you until the relationship with your lover stops or you do not submit to divorce.
"I love my husband and I want his friend"
If in the previous situation, special emotional distress from the very fact of falling in love with another man should not arise, then in this case, they can not be dispensed with. Deciding to have sex with a friend of your husband, you endanger family well-being, even if it is a threesome. As practice shows, in a matrimonial bed it is better to call the third one who you do not know, with whom you will not constantly intersect in everyday life. So if you really love your husband, then it's better to forget about his friend. Even if your romance does not last long, anyway his subsequent visits to your house will deliver many unpleasant minutes. This is the case if a friend is single, and if married? You also have to communicate with his wife. But it's easy to say forget, but how to do it?
Try the following tips:
- Do you think your husband's friend is the ideal of a man? But you understand that ideal people do not exist. Look for faults, and do it meticulously, as if trying to solicit a discount, convincing the seller that his goods are defective. Is your husband's friend still free? Irresponsibility, cowardice and selfishness are evident. Pay attention to bad habits, bad manners - a detailed analysis of the personality will dispel the ideal image that has developed in your mind.
- Lose the situation in your mind, as if you decided to fulfill your desire. Imagine that you have benefited from this, that you have lost. Just be realistic, do not build yourself air locks. To walk for the handle and to meet, when the husband is not at home, for a long time it does not turn out. People are much
more carefully than they want to seem. And if the husband does not notice the changes in your behavior, then well-wishers will enlighten him. Do you think grandmothers at the entrance will not notice that another man is coming to you in the absence of her husband? They will notice and gladly share information with everyone who wishes. Imagine what will happen if your novel becomes known to everyone. Is it worth the momentary passion for such problems?
Whatever the circumstances, always try to connect the mind to the matter, and not emotions. Armed with a sheet of paper and a pen. Write or draw your situation and try to imagine it from the side. Sometimes it is only possible to foresee the inevitable ...