In your family, a miracle happened - a long-awaited and beloved baby appeared. Your heir is still very small, but right now, from the first days of his life, it's important to put all the best into it. This can only be done by knowing the characteristics of the education of boys.
How to properly educate a boy?
To begin with, we will deal with the most common mistakes that most parents allow in the upbringing of future defenders and real men. So, remember how NOT to bring up boys:
- The most common misconception of parents is associated with the upbringing in the child of "strength" and masculinity. For some reason, many believe that the stricter it is to treat boys and punish them more often, then will, patience and ability to survive under difficult conditions will develop more quickly. But this is a child! Boys also have the right to caress and the love of their parents. And psychologically they are much more vulnerable to girls. Less scold him. It is better to praise and cheer more often;
- another misconception is connected with the ban on tears. From the very diapers the boys are forbidden to cry, so as not to "behave like a girl". Have you ever wondered why men live less than women? Because the stress accumulates in the body, and the man is forced to keep it in himself, because it was forbidden to cry in childhood. As a result, we have numerous heart attacks and strokes. Remember - every child, regardless of gender, is entitled to tears;
- The most pernicious factor for the future of the man is the mother of the hyperope. How to raise a boy from a man if he is not allowed to run through puddles, make sure that he does not fall, wrapped in 100 clothes, and even bicycles behind him are worn on fragile female shoulders? You run the risk of getting a person who is not self-sufficient, who is accustomed to being followed by his parents. Hothouse conditions ruin a man in a boy;
- contrary to the categorical prohibition of many parents, the boy should be given the opportunity to play with the doll. This will not only allow the child to better grasp the parental role, but also has a beneficial effect on the development of his sexual system and even on the ability to conceive his child. Why do many men with the advent of their own child arrive very late in their father's feelings? They simply were not allowed to play with the doll in childhood and rehearse the role of the father;
- the psychology of the education of the boy is based, first of all, on the role that his mother plays for him. Do not show the baby that his mother is a strong authoritative woman who does everything at home, and earns money at work, and in general she is a jack of all trades. For your child, you must be fragile and gentle. The boy should have a desire to protect you and take care. Do not suppress your child with authority. Remember that he will seek a woman in the image and likeness of the mother.
How to educate a teenage boy?
When a child turns 12 years old, the most difficult question for parents is how to raise a teenage boy. It is solved quite simply. If in childhood you have invested in the child all the important qualities, then in the adolescence, problems should not arise. The peculiarities of the boy's upbringing in the family are such that both parents should do their utmost to get support and not to seek it from their peers on the street. To ensure that your teenager does not fall under the bad influence, use the main principle of correct education of the boy - try to create from the younger years for him a certain regime of the day. This will help sports sections, which tempered the nature and attitude to life. In addition, with a competent employment organization, your child simply will not have time to stagger around the street without any work.
Education of a boy in an incomplete family
Particularly relevant recently was the question of how to raise a boy without a father. Unfortunately, single mothers did not surprise anyone. The education of a boy in an incomplete family requires great efforts on the part of the mother. In this case, it is also important to follow certain rules:
- Do not try to make a child "a man in the house." He, first of all, is a child. When you shift household chores to his shoulders, you deprive him of his childhood and interfere with his harmonious development. But since it is still difficult to educate a boy alone, try to attract someone from relatives, preferably men;
- try to give the child the opportunity to communicate with peers more often. Write it down in some sports section. Feeling of belonging to any group is important for the development of self-esteem;
- Do not worry yourself with thoughts that without a father your child is deprived of something. Enjoy
in the meantime, which you spend together. On the other hand, stress the importance of the relationship between a man and a woman. Do not in any way speak ill of a father to your child; - support the activity of the child. This is a very important feature for all boys;
- more often give the child the initiative. Listen to his opinion. And do not take offense on your son's grievances against men.
There are many methods, how and in what conditions to bring up the boy. Everyone has the right to choose the most suitable. But do not forget about all the advice you gave. Sometimes extra care damages more than a complete lack of education. The main thing is not to hurt.