To admit to love is not easy, but it is even harder to find words to say goodbye to former love. After all, most often, the decision to part comes to the mind of one of the couple, and then the desire to start a new life, good memories, pity and fear - all this is mixed into one big confusion, a stone pressing on the heart. And then many people decide to write a letter, because with its help you can avoid unnecessary emotions and protect yourself from unwary words. You can not bring this back, but you can correct it. About how to write a letter to a beloved man about parting, or what to write after (if the conversation ends with a three-point or a deep insult), we'll talk today.
Of course, I want to write a beautiful farewell letter, but remember that you want to tell the guy about parting, and a loving person is able to see a glimmer of hope in any warm word. So first of all you must let him understand the reason for your decision. So, let's compose something like an instruction to write a farewell letter:
- First, throw out all the emotions. Just express a sheet of paper, pouring on him and pain, and resentment, and fears. Do not hold back - it is important for you to become aware of your feelings in order to restore order in your thoughts and in the chaos of emotions.
- Leave this first letter lying on the sidelines. If a new wave rushes, you can supplement it (in this case, of course, it is more convenient to create an electronic document). Return to him when you are calm and analyze yourself.
- After a while, sit down to write a letter for your beloved - it's time to tell him about the separation. Put the previous version in front of you, and think about what you wrote from the earlier you really want to inform the former.
- Think: whether the letter needs accusations. In the end, if the reason for the break is his wrong attitude, then you can honestly say this, but do not blame a person too much - he can not answer or object to these attacks. In any case, end with the phrase about forgiveness.
- Check whether the cause of separation is clearly stated. It should be clear and categorical, if, of course, you want to part, and not try to solve the accumulated problems.
- Thank the young man for all the good moments that were between you. Especially if you write a guy letter after the parting. Ask for forgiveness and wish him happiness.
- Postpone the second letter as well as the first. Return to him in a day or two. Are your feelings sincere? Do you really forgive and wish happiness to the former person? If not, then you have not fully understood yourself. Perhaps you will do this later, so try to "fit" your feelings to the letter, and not vice versa.
- Mentally say goodbye to the letter and with a former loved one. Do not configure yourself to receive a response and delete all the lines suggesting a dialog. Otherwise, the letter of separation will turn
in the correspondence between loved ones. And it will be difficult for you to put an end to it. - If you want to break with a legitimate spouse, then be prepared for the fact that the letter of separation will not save you and your husband from subsequent meetings. Therefore, try to be as logical, consistent and decisive as possible. It is not necessary to find out the relationship and agree on a divorce - as adults, you should discuss this over the phone.
When you send the letter, do not wait for an answer. Do not analyze and do not doubt. You asked for forgiveness and forgiven. Inside you now have freedom and thousands of ways open up to meet your destiny.