Spoiled child

Loving parents want to give their children the best: food, clothes, toys. They surround them with a sea of ​​love and affection. But it happens that mom and dad indulge the child's whims, do not dare to refuse any of his whims. And then a small tyrant grows unnoticed, loudly demanding what he wants. Parents are puzzled when and why their baby has become so. And the main question, if a spoiled child is in the family, is what to do?

What is spoiled?

Spoiled in pedagogy consider a child ill-bred. Spoiledness occurs when parents confuse the concept of "educate" with the concept of "raise", that is, to dress and feed. Many moms and dads just do not have free time to give it to the younger generation, working for 10 or more hours a day. Spoiledness also appears with the different approach of parents and grandparents to education. When children are spoiled, they are distinguished by capriciousness, selfishness, independence from parents and their will. Offsprings are emotionally unstable and do not know how to build relationships with peers. Such babies are used to getting what they want on demand and do not know the word "no" or "not." When trying to refuse to buy another machine, the daughters roll a tantrum with tears, beating their hands on the floor, etc.

How to rehabilitate a spoiled child?

To fulfill this intention, parents need to be patient and firm. After all, the baby will have to be taught to give up his desires. To begin with, talk with the child and explain the reason for refusal. Explain that you will not fulfill his desire, not because you do not love, but because there is an objective reason. Most likely, the child will understand and roll up a hysterics does not become. If tears and crying are used, do not change your exposure. Better go to another room or turn on the TV louder. Surely the youngster will get tired of yelling, and after 20 minutes he will calm down. The child must learn to share the notions "impossible" and "can." Use such phrases as "impossible", "do not allow", pronouncing them in a strict tone. But be consistent - if the phone can not be touched, then it is not allowed to take it ever! Agree with the grandparents about the correct education, they, too, should not go on about the beloved grandson.

How not to spoil the child?

If parents do not want to spoil their children, it's worth sticking to some recommendations:

1. Do not do for the child what he can do himself.
2. To adhere to the rule "No - it means no!" Always without concessions.
3. Motivate the receipt of the desired good behavior, the fulfillment of tasks.
4. To enlist the promise of other family members not to contribute to the spoiling of children.