Yes, this is the same test that Penny and Sheldon went through!
The most readable columnist "The New Yorks Time", Carrie Bradshaw of our days - Mandy Len Katron during the writing of the next love essay "Fall in love with someone, do it now" was interested in the unique experiment of Dr. Arthur Aron, a doctor of psychology, held 20 years ago. Then the scientist, who dedicated his work to the study of the intimacy between two strangers, proved that to fall in love with someone (even hitherto unfamiliar) or resurrect chilled feelings, you can answer only 36 personal questions, after which you should look into your partner's eyes for exactly 4 minutes!
The results at first laboratory experiments had unprecedented success, and went to the masses. Well, the first "guinea pigs", barely having met that day, after 6 months invited laboratory staff to the wedding ceremony! And even more - happy love stories of couples who have been through this bold experiment called "Mutual vulnerability fosters closeness" was enough to write the whole book! As you guessed, Miss Katron not only for career reasons decided to return from oblivion this precious questionnaire - her personal life also settled in an amazing way ...
Well, are you ready for a wonderful change? Then get ready to answer three groups of questions, in between which you can pause, and then - fix your views not on 3 or 5, but exactly for 4 minutes!
- You can invite any person on the earth to dine with you, so who will you choose?
- Do you want to become famous? If so, in what?
- When you intend to make a phone call, do you scroll in your head about what you will talk about?
- How should your best / ideal day go?
- Remember the last time you sang alone? And in the company?
- If on the 30th birthday you learned that you will live to be 90 years old, but you can keep either the mind or the body for the next 60 years, then what would you prefer?
- And deep in your heart, did you reflect on how you will leave your life?
- And what three things or qualities unite you with a partner? (even possible).
- For that, what happened in life, can you say a hundred words of gratitude?
- What adjustments have you made to your upbringing?
- You have only 240 seconds, for which you must tell your partner about your life to the smallest details. Time has gone ...
- And what if on the morning of the next day you can master a new quality or ability? What do you prefer?
- Before you is the most reliable crystal ball, which is not mistaken in predicting the future life and will tell the whole truth. Are you ready to find out?
- What have you been dreaming about for a long time? What are the reasons why you still have not realized your dreams?
- And what was your most global success in life?
- What qualities of friends are most valuable to you?
- Tell us about the most heartfelt memories?
- And what then was the most terrible memory?
- What if your life ends this year? What will you change in it now and why?
- What can you say about friendship?
- Love and affection - what is the priority for you?
- Offer the partner an alternative exchange and in turn list the five positive qualities of each other.
- And your childhood seems to you more happy than others?
- And what can you tell us about your relationship with your mother?
- Make three general statements that unite you at this moment, like "We are now feeling ..."
- And how do you complement the phrase - "I dream of being with someone I can share ..."?
- If closeness is important to you, then the partner must know about you ...?
- Tell the partner about what you like in him, but pick up words that you would not say to a stranger.
- And what awkward moment can you tell your partner about?
- Tears in sight of others and in solitude - when did you experience these emotions for the last time?
- And what do you like about your partner now?
- And what for you will never become an excuse for jokes?
- If your life stops this evening, what important words and to whom did not you have time to say?
- In your home a fire, but you managed to save your loved ones and pets. For saving what will you rush into the last safe leap?
- The loss of which family member causes you the greatest concern?
- Tell your partner about your personal problem and ask for advice. Dare to also find out what he thinks about the significance of your problem?
And do not forget about the 4-minute eye-sight!