Relationship with a married man

The problem of a relationship with a married man is as old as the institution of marriage. Unfortunately, feelings can not be forced to choose the right object for adoration, therefore, having discarded hypocrisy and closing your eyes to the moral and ethical aspect of the problem, let's understand the psychological characteristics of a relationship with a married man.

Psychology of relations with a married man

Young ladies who have a relationship with the "ringed" chosen, often reassure themselves that, he says, he is uncomfortable in the family, the wife of a bitch, and only with me he gets the warmth that deserves. In part, this view is correct: indeed, most men will not change their second half if all or almost all (after all, there are no ideal relationships) suits in family life. However, there are also such specimens that exactly correspond to the saying "how many wolves do not feed ...". In other words, no matter how wonderful his wife may be, and the ideal family climate, everyday life, and bed, he still can not but "walk on the side" in any way. There are several types of such pathologic women:

  1. Type one is a "polygamist" . Such men simply can not get all the attention and warmth they need in a relationship with one woman. Very often they were brought up together by a grandmother and mother, and they are not accustomed to choose between two women. By the way, usually the wife and mistress of such a man correspond to the psychotypes of his grandmother and mother. Thus, he simply recreates the situation familiar to him since childhood.
  2. The second type is the "collector" . For such a man, every regular woman is a legitimate trophy. He simply can not stop, in this eternal competition to confirm his masculinity. Even if he managed to somehow put on the ring, his wife, it's worth to reconcile with the idea that she will not remain the only woman in his life (even one of two, the account usually goes to dozens). Relations with such a married man can hardly be long, because they are not his goal, and he begins to be quickly burdened by them.
  3. Type three - "extreme love sports" - a bit like the previous type, but its purpose is not love's victory. He adores the cocktail of endorphins and adrenaline that rages in his blood at the beginning of every new novel. Often gets a few relationships at the same time, so it was more interesting. Quite easily given to the registrar, but "live long and happily" with him, too, will not work. Too fast family ties, for such a man, turn into shackles.

As is clear from the classification, relations with pathological ladies' men are usually deprived of the future. Since the "polygamist" is unlikely to ever leave his family, he is quite satisfied with the situation in which he has both a wife and a mistress. A "collector" and "extreme" if they create a new family, then this will not stop. By the way, such married men are the majority who start a relationship with a woman on the side.

How to break off a relationship with a married man?

Very often, the only acceptable way for a woman is to break off relationships with a married man. Firstly, participating in a love triangle, it simply loses time, because the chance to create a family here is minimal. Secondly, jealousy, too, no one canceled. After all, every look at his watch, every lie to his wife on the phone, that he was stuck in a monstrous traffic jam (necessary to emphasize), but he will soon return home, hurt that other. Any woman wants to be unique and unique, do not hide her love, and not play a spy on a mission.

Therefore, if you still decide to break with your married partner, ask yourself the question "What do you get from this relationship?", Not only good, but also bad. Be honest with yourself. If the negative consequences of a love relationship with a married man, still outweigh the pros, reduce, or completely nullify your meetings. Look for someone who really appreciates you. Such a person is sure to be found.