Family arrangements by Hellinger

Everything new is a well-forgotten old, in some cases even older. It's terrible to think, the method of arrangement was known 5000 years ago and was used by the dervishes of Central Asia, and it gained popularity only in the 90s of the last century. Most often the notion of family constellations is associated with the name of Bert Hellinger. It was with his submission that this method was used in psychotherapy. But, in addition to followers, this method has principled opponents who consider its use to be unacceptable. Let's see what's good in the method of family constellations by Hellinger and how they can be dangerous.

The essence of the method of systemic family constellations by Hellinger

Nobody will deny that the family has a great influence on the formation of personality, and any turmoil in it affects every member of the family, especially children. Often people can not cope with conflicts on their own, because they do not have the opportunity to look at the problem through the eyes of the opponent. Bert Hellinger for this purpose uses the method of family constellations. Classical arrangement assumes the choice of deputies for the role of family members of the client. Next, a placement is made according to the intuitive sensations of the therapist or client, and then each deputy begins to question their feelings, thoughts and feelings. Thus it turns out to find out the interrelations between each element of the system.

Arrangements for Hellinger can be conducted in a group, and can be individual. In the latter case, instead of substitute people, figures, imagination, anchors, chairs, etc. are used. But the Hellinger arrangements arranged in the training format are more likely to be more effective. Since not always with individual work a person manages to "get into the skin" of another.

It seems that everything is not bad, people get an opportunity to disassemble the situation in detail, to find out of it an exit that would suit all members of the family. Moreover, there is not one example, when the Hellenberg arrangements have changed people's lives for the better. Why then are there so many dissatisfied people who say that this method is evil?

Hazards of the Hellingser Family Constellation Method

The first book of Hellinger on the method of family constellations was called "Order of Love", and it laid down the basic principles of this method:

1. Law of belonging. Every member of the family has the right to belong to it. If any member of the family is expelled, the remaining ones are forced to assume his role, in some way repeat his fate.
2. The law of hierarchy. A new family takes precedence over the old. If children, basing their family, remain more attached to the parent, then problems in the new family are inevitable.
3. The law of balance. Each family member should give the same amount of money as he receives.

Violation of these principles leads to problems and conflicts, but to find out the source of contradictions, it is necessary to make a lot of efforts. Even more, the task is complicated by the fact that mistakes could be made by those people who are no longer alive. On the system the substitutions are also chosen for their role, therefore, there are so many perturbed. Bioenergetics are indignant, saying that this action is very similar to spiritualism, people thus take over the programs of deceased relatives. For the same reason, Orthodoxy considers Hellinger's arrangement as obscurantism, only very few sincere believing psychologists decide to apply some methods from this method in practice.

To which group to adhere to solve to you, but remember that the human psyche is a thing that requires careful treatment, and therefore it is not worthwhile to trust its concerns for nonprofessionals trying to make money on the problems of people.