Not everyone is lucky to have a peaceful family with loving parents. In modern families quarrels have already become common. For some people, a quarrel is a certain way of living together, a method of solving problems, but the child does not understand this, he believes that the reason is in him and that he is bad. He feels defenseless and helpless, not knowing which side to take. If a teenager can somehow express a protest, then the kid is just afraid when parents scream, and it does not matter to him or one to another. Children often have a question about how to reconcile their parents and in some situations they actually manage to establish a family environment.
Causes of conflicts - why parents constantly swear:
- Disrespect for a partner, actions and words that hurt a person's dignity, mutual insults, often become one of the reasons why parents quarrel. Quarrels necessarily arise in a pair where there is no confidence, when one spouse tries to follow another, to control his actions, is jealous without any reason.
- Lack of romance is also the reason that parents constantly swear. Usually at the beginning of a relationship, romance exists, but then it gradually disappears. The husband stops caring and pay attention to his wife, the wife stops flirting with her husband, watching for yourself.
- Parents abuse, because the reality in the family is not up to expectations. Many have their own vision of living together and when it goes against reality, quarrels arise. The reason for such quarrels may be a lack of care, tenderness, bad sex, etc.
- Overstated requirements of partners, as well as when the spouses have different ideas about each other's rights and obligations, contribute to the emergence of mutual discontent and frustration.
- Quarrels can arise when the family is boring and monotonous leisure. Day after day, one and the same is not bright emotions, diversity, new sensations. When the spouses spend their holidays separately, it also causes scandals between them.
What should I do if my parents argue?
- If the parents quarrel, the first thing to do is to establish the cause of the discord. If it is serious - alcohol, treachery, or you see that the feelings of the parents have cooled down, then you better stay away, the parents will understand themselves, and you need only take their decision.
- Find a compromise. After determining the cause of the problem, try to find the solution yourself, suiting both parents.
- Talk separately with each parent. Try to make it look natural, for example, at breakfast, when the father leaves, ask your mother why the parents quarrel, which was the reason, and what they will do next. You need a survey to start a conversation. When your mother answers these questions, tell us how you feel about their quarrel, that you have bad thoughts. You need to evoke her sympathy and awareness that their bad quarrels affect you badly.
- When mother can look at the conflict from a different angle and realizes that she is doing wrong, lie, inventing a story, that the pope really wants to make up, but how she does not know. And ask the first one to ask for forgiveness.
- Repeat this with your father.
- Do not be stupid. Do not follow the advice of the series: start to drip, drink, smoke. Do not start to quarrel with your parents, it's
not the best way how to reconcile them. So you only further exacerbate the conflict and bring yourself additional problems. You need to reassure, rather than create additional difficulties for parents. - If the mother does not go to reconciliation, buy flowers and present to her, saying that it was the dad who bought it, but he begged you not to say that the bouquet was from him. If your father is offended, buy cologne, which he loves and say that his mother bought the perfume, but asked you to give them away from yourself. The main thing and do not admit further that this is what you set up.
Do not lower your hands and do not despond, perhaps you will invent your method, how to reconcile the parents. Peace to your family!