Now a confident woman, a successful woman, does not surprise anyone, she will also be surprised to learn that her husband is sitting at home with a child and doing housework, and all the security is on her.
In the struggle for equality, women have achieved that they can change roles with men. To some extent, this is even good, everyone does what he likes best, because there are many careerists among women, and some men really like to bake pies and iron diapers.
But everything has reasonable boundaries, in this case they end there, where the voluntariness of what is happening. In fact, besides the adequate situation described above, you can see another - a young mother is torn between work and household duties, and her husband at the same time thoughtlessly looks at the TV and is not particularly trying to help something. Or the whole family lives on a child benefit because the wife is sitting in a decree, and the husband can not find a job to taste.
Let's understand why it turns out that some men are reluctant to take on the role of a breadwinner, and how you can get your husband to go to work.
We should start with the question: "Has it always been so?". That is, did you marry a successful man who is not afraid of work and is willing to work for the benefit of the family or he did not show special activity from the very beginning to ensure your financial well-being. The reasons for this can be different.
If the husband decided to change jobs, retired from the old, but does not hurry to look for a new one, it may be in a psychological crisis, accumulated fatigue or depression. Every person in life has periods when he is very weak. Overcome them quickly and without complications is possible only with the support of close people, but our wives in such situations prefer to saw their husbands, only aggravating the situation.
It may also be that you yourself put your husband around his neck, showing him his strength of character, with which he could not cope. An independent woman who can provide herself, does not always cause a desire to help her in something. You have taken on a man's role, you can return it to your husband only by regaining yourselves as a woman. Be slightly softer, more gentle, feminine, and it is possible that your second half will want to feel like a man.
And if a man does not seek a successful career throughout your acquaintance, then there is no need to await radical changes on his part, most likely, it is a stable feature of character.
How to make her husband find a job?
In any case, if a woman wants her husband to be an earner, she will need a serious amount of patience. After all, the second half in any case can not be sawed, also useless will be persuasion.
It is necessary to act so quietly and unobtrusively that after the decision the man was sure that he accepted it himself. In the course can go sad sighs in front of storefronts, stories that your work is expected to reduce, forgotten in a prominent place newspapers with ads or talk about interesting vacancies. Everything should be cute and benevolent.
Try to find out from her husband what his dream job should be. And then try to find something similar. For example, if he spends a lot of time playing computer games, then casually tell him that you can earn on the reviews. Perhaps your husband does not work because he does not know where to direct his creativity? So help him to realize himself, submit a worthwhile idea. The main thing - believe in your man, then he too will eventually believe himself and will be able to achieve very much.
How to make a husband earn more?
If your spouse is working properly, but gets a penny for his work and does not seek to change it, perhaps it is completely comfortable with it. In this situation, too, only cunning will help.
It is important to understand that you should not push your husband to something that runs counter to his principles. For example, if you complain about a lack of money to a local doctor and persuade him to start selling sick lists, then you can not reach an understanding, and
It will be difficult if your man genuinely loves his work. But if he is not a fan of his case, then there is another option, how to get your husband to earn more - to persuade you to change work. Pick a few decent options and discuss them with him. Most likely, he will gratefully accept such help.