It is not necessary to be frightened, having read the title of the article "How to get rid of her husband?", It will not be about the physical elimination of the hated spouse. We will talk about how to properly part with her husband an alcoholic. It is clear that alcoholism is a disease and it needs to be treated, but with all modern techniques a positive result is impossible if a person does not want to be treated. And what remains for a woman, except to say: "I want to get rid of my husband's alcoholic, help me"? After all, living with a tyrant is impossible.
How to drive her husband out of the house?
How to get rid of the husband of an alcoholic? Yes, take and drive, problems! So think those who have not encountered such a problem. In fact, you need to start with yourself.
- A woman who has lived with her husband for a long time often does not know how to get rid of a tyrant, not because she does not think about divorce and eviction of her husband. But because she pities this man, tries to help, believes that the situation will change, he will stop drinking and everything will be as before. But this does not happen, and the woman continues to live with an alcoholic, and, if the couple is not childless, the woman and children suffer as well. Being in a state of intoxication and a healthy person is capable of cruelty towards his loved ones, and there is no need to talk about alcoholism. In such a situation you need to clearly realize that the treatment does not bear fruit, that you can not help the alcoholic, and no longer feel sorry for him, but for yourself and the children.
- Realizing the need to abandon your husband, think about how to implement your intention. How can your care affect children, parents and friends. Think about whether you will try to take revenge on your husband friends, relatives or relatives.
- After assessing the situation, decide on the divorce and division of the territory. Even if the husband did not show a tendency to violence, it is better to stop being with him on the same territory as soon as possible. If your apartment, then when it does not, change the locks, and collect the things and leave at the door. If you live on its territory, then collect your things and things of children and leave. If the apartment belongs to both, you have to deal with its sale, exchange, but you do not need to live in the same territory with the ex-husband. In some cases, you have to move even from your own apartment. In such a situation, to live up to selling an apartment is better with relatives, friends, where the ex-husband does not decide to come forward, or whose addresses he does not know. When moving, try to prevent the ex-husband from knowing where you are moving. In extreme cases, transfer the children to another school (in the extreme, because for children this will be an additional trauma) so that the husband can not influence you through them.
- The husband, of course, to inform about his decision is necessary. If you are sure that there will be no aggression on his part, you can, by choosing the time when he is sober, tell calmly about your desire to divorce. And after talking, do not delay with the move. If you anticipate the negative reaction of the husband, then it is better to talk with him after moving, then when you do not have to be with him on the same territory. And it is better that your conversation took place in a quiet public place.
Well, if your husband is completely out of himself in attacks of aggression, you are afraid for your health and life, then leave nobility, report your decision in a note left to him. - After your departure, try not to meet with him, except for the necessary cases. Change phone numbers, do not let him into the apartment. Sometimes alcoholics try to leave their habit after the wife leaves, but this requires more than one day. And even if this happened it is not worth renewing the relationship, where the guarantee that everything will not happen again, why step on the same rake? Leave a pity, by your actions and unwillingness to fight the disease your spouse earned such an attitude, and you and your children deserve a normal happy life.
- Often women, divorcing from an alcoholic, do not know how to get rid of the now drunkard of a husband, he seems to guard every step. In this case, you can contact the support service of women who are in a difficult situation. Professional psychologists and lawyers will tell you what can be done in your case.