Polyamory (polyamory) is a new term that people who are not satisfied with traditional unions of the "man-woman" format designate their relations. According to many fans of polyamory, such open relationships contribute to the growth of life satisfaction, making it more diverse and more pleasant.
Polyamory - what is it?
According to Brandon Wade, creator of the site for "thinking openly", polyamory is a form of "moral infidelity" for people who do not consider monogamy a model of relations. The main conditions of polyamory are honesty, awareness and openness. The partner must not suffer from the presence of others involved in the relationship of a couple, persons. The spectrum of polyamorous relations is infinitely wide, and only the number of participants involved, the forms of their relations, the way of life depends on the participants.
Polyamory should be separated from such concepts as treason, betrayal. With the adultery of one of the partners, the second one invariably suffers, which does not correspond to the main rule of polyamory. A close term is polygamy, which means a particular form of marriage in which one spouse can have more than one partner of the opposite sex (polygamy and polyandry). Polyamory does not limit this - in the group of people involved, there may be heterosexual and homosexual relationships.
Poly-union - what is it?
Union polyamori (involved) can be group or free, open or closed, mixed.
- A group alliance is a kind of poly-familial family in which, with bisexual inclinations, everyone's relationship is possible. Such poly-familial families are sometimes called "Swedish".
- A free union is a group of several polyamories that are not related to each other.
- Those involved in an open union of polyamory can afford any number of connections, long-term or short-term.
- In a closed polyamore community, they maintain a relationship with a permanent group of people involved, without being distracted by extraneous connections.
- In a mixed union, one of the polyamories can be opened for fleeting connections, and another - to adhere to regular partners.
Polyamory - psychology
From the point of view of psychology, polyamorous relations are more honest than polygamy or an alliance in which one of the partners changes the spouse. True, this honesty can cause a nervous breakdown if one of those involved agrees to a free sexual union in order to keep the relationship with the one he loves. In addition, polyamory is suitable only for people who are free from the opinion of society, tk. most people do not approve of it.
In some cases, polyamory can become a salvation for man. For example, if an individual is not capable of monogamy and if there is no consent, the husband will constantly change. Sami polyamory often explain their desire for diversity in that one can not demand from one partner all possible diversity in relationships and sexual life.
Can I give up polyamory?
A person who does not like polyamory in a relationship, not only can refuse it, but also must directly state this to his partner. Polyamory does not accept lies and concealment of the truth, everyone who is in such a union must be aware and agree. An individual who tends to sexual freedom must either find relatives in the worldview , or abandon polyamory for the sake of a loved one.
Polyamory - books
Polyamorous people are increasingly becoming the heroes of books, beginning with the "dreamers" of Bertolucci.
- K.A. List, D. Easton "The Ethics of Blasting . " This book talks about the bodily side of a love relationship. The main goal of the authors of the work is to prove that free relations do not go beyond public morality.
- D. Ebershof "19th wife" . This book, written in the genre of a detective, tells about the intractable intra-family relations of a large family of Mormons.
- R. Merle "Malvil" . Free love relationships in this work unfolding against the background of post-apocalypse.
- M. Kundera "The Unbearable Lightness of Being" . This stylish and philosophical work will fascinate the reader with a heat of passion and a twisted plot. The heroes of the book live their lives, wandering in the labyrinth of perspective and learning the duality of their bodies and souls.