How beautiful is the time of love, with its sleepless nights, bouquets of flowers, oaths of loyalty and a sense of boundless happiness! But there is a day, a month and suddenly you begin to notice that your loved one has suddenly been changed. Any action began to cause irritation, and simple household trifles increasingly began to grow into scandals. Do not be surprised - you just started a time of misunderstanding, and, more simply, a crisis of relations.
Misunderstanding in the family
Most of the young couples just entering the slippery path of married life are absolutely sure that they will not be affected by all the woes and life conflicts that the older generation frightens so often. No matter how it is! Misunderstanding between spouses occurs in the first year after the wedding. It is not without reason that psychologists call it the crisis of the first year. Let's figure out what we are doing wrong with our relationship and why 90% of young spouses have problems with not understanding in the family.
To begin with, where, where only such social roles are beginning to emerge, as husband and wife are almost immediately born and misunderstanding. Why is this happening? The answers to the most seemingly difficult questions always lie on the surface. Let's lay out on the shelves, where the mutual misunderstanding takes place. Answer yourself to the question: when marrying or agreeing to live together with your (like) second half, did you imagine what your family will be like? You've thought about how it will be, have not you? Now stop and think. But your spouse also somehow imagined a joint life. And it was not your parents who brought him up, but people who are strangers to you. What do we get as a result: man and woman are different in themselves, and starting to live together, they use those patterns that they appeared in the process of growing up surrounded by their parents. In other words, the couple are two people with two completely different ideas about family life. And after that, you wonder where the rudeness and misunderstanding in the family comes from? Patterns of perception of family life, this is not all the reasons for that wall of alienation with a loved one that we build with our own hands. Panacea, which will break all the barriers of misunderstanding, today does not exist. However, there are general recommendations that have emerged from the bitter experience of married couples with many years of experience. Having listened to them, you will be able to save your marriage and relationships.
How to overcome misunderstanding?
So, your relationship finally came to a standstill. It seems to you that you are from different planets, speak different languages, and there will never be an end to this nightmare. Unfortunately, people often mix love and misunderstanding together. Due to our own selfishness, we are blaming responsibility for the relationship with a loved one. Although in fact, the one who is most interested in it should be fighting for them.
And since you are reading this material, let's work out together how to fight misunderstanding:
- Learn to speak. This is the simplest rule of the young couple for some reason ignored. And most often it is girls. Did not like the act: swallowed, kept silent, scrolled in the head, remembered. And so several times in a row. And in the shower we have all expressed our faithful long ago. And in reality he does not even suspect that we are dissatisfied with something. And then we have patience, we blame the man for all sins and shout that they do not understand us. After all, you could immediately discuss everything, but do not save discontent in yourself, right?
- Imagine the situation: you are tired after work, you barely creep home, you are met by a man who is dissatisfied with your eternal lapses, without giving you a break, begins to pester questions about how and for what you love him, he is offended that you give him little time, and does not accept any answers like those that you are tired and you should sleep. Does not it look like anything? But most girls do the same with their loved ones. And then they take offense that they "somehow do not understand."
- Never and under no circumstances do not discuss your second half's relatives. Yes, all have shortcomings. But he grew up with them, they are people close to him. And in which case, he will choose them, not you. Do not create yourself an unnecessary reason for disagreement.
- Become irreplaceable. It's so simple: to cook a favorite dinner, to meet with a smile on your face, to allow you to recover after a hard day's work. Have patience to listen to another story about hated competitors, a colleague who tries to substitute and about what machine a friend bought.
Men know how to be thankful. Give him good, and he will always reciprocate.
Examples of how to avoid misunderstanding in relationships can be listed endlessly. Remember one main rule - the home is not in vain held by women. Do everything to make your man feel necessary and loved. Be able to correctly speak about what you would like to change in your life together. Break the barriers of misunderstanding, not letting them even arise. The woman's lot is to think not only about herself, but also about the interests of the man. Take care of your love, know how to sacrifice for her, and she will answer you with the light of human warmth and gratitude of your chosen one.