It is believed that the loss, separation or divorce from the person with whom you have a long relationship - this is a very strong shock. Since for a long time spent together, the couple becomes one, and the man and his life are part of the woman herself. It is difficult to part with a part of yourself in another person. There is an opinion that half of the time spent together is spent on experiences. But do not give chance to the former feelings to destroy you! Learn to leave the past behind. This difficult work on yourself, and until you do it, the doors to another life will be closed. Non-acceptance of the situation is a useless struggle that is destructive and painful for the soul.
How to let go of a loved one?
- You should meet and discuss everything calmly, just choose the time suitable for conversation. If a person leaves for another, wish him good luck and say goodbye.
- Try to think less about parting. Distract, walk more, go on vacation, communicate with friends and do not stay with your thoughts alone.
- Think well about your relationship. What did they have more - positive or negative points? Perhaps your separation is only for the better.
- Try to tell someone about your grief, and spend less time alone.
- Be honest with yourself. You yourself do not want to let him go. Live your memories of love, which is no longer there. You are afraid of pain, emptiness and start all over again. Imagine that it will not be painful already. If you have experienced this, then you will overcome everything.
- Do something. The work will help you, in all situations. You will not have time for sorrow. If you do not work, then lean more actively to study, sign up for courses, learn the language - take all the unoccupied time.
- Engage actively in sports, it perfectly helps to cope with stress. You can release steam, all the bitterness accumulated in the soul. Accumulated negative emotions destroy a person from within.
- You can only let go of an ex-husband when you realize that it is not your destiny to be together. Until you understand this - do not let go. Your feelings will pass with time, the main thing - do not give in to them when you have already decided everything. Convince yourself that everything done right. You will feel better, because letting go of someone - we let go of ourselves.
- In your free time visualize, imagine how your life is changing for the better. Now you are drawing pictures in the imagination, how difficult it will be without a loved one, and you change the plot to the opposite. It is especially useful to do this exercise after awakening and before going to bed.
- Accept your past, do not deny anything and do not cheat yourself. But leave it behind as a passed stage. You can not move forward if you constantly look back.
- Use the ritual of saying goodbye. Cover your eyes and imagine how the former loved one is standing under your door, let him in his house, mentally talk to him. Tell him what you wanted, given that you are breaking up. Wish him well, and lead him. Take a deep breath, open your eyes. Now you are on your way to the future.
How to release the deceased husband?
- Often experiences are associated with feelings of guilt. Let's say you did not pay attention to either care for the deceased or something offended him. Now constantly you remember this, you are tormented by conscience and belated repentance. In any case, sorrow is not the best means for redemption. Redeem your guilt with good deeds, help someone.
- Turn on the logic. The "irreparable" has already happened. You do not change anything with tears. You will only add problems to your relatives if you undermine your health and mentality. Keep yourself in hand for the sake of
memory of the deceased. - If you are religious, try to be consoled by religion. Pray for the deceased, if it is very hard for you - talk to the priest. Often, to calm down you just need to speak out.
- Try to convince yourself that for sure the deceased would be upset if he saw your tears and sorrow.
- Leave your head to work.
How to let go of a beloved man, it's unimportant to an ex-husband or a guy you will understand when you try the written methods - everyone has their own way. Do not cling to past feelings because the truth is simple: you love - let go if yours - will come back.