The victim's syndrome always has roots in childhood and is often not realized by the person himself. He quickly resigns himself to the fact that he is not lucky at all: dismissed from work, betrayed by friends, abandoned by loved ones. However, it is important to be able to face the truth: only after acknowledging that you have a victim syndrome, you can overcome it.
Psychology: victim syndrome
Such people can be among women and men. At first glance, they are quite good, quite positive people, but in life they are not lucky: colleagues dump all the work on them, friends just do what they ask for "favors", the authorities do not appreciate hard work. At the same time, such people are not bright, try not to stand out from the crowd, they say quietly, easily concede in disputes, restrainedly gesture, and even if the conflict did not happen outside them, they will prefer to apologize.
People feel this inability to stand up for themselves, and gradually begin to use it. There is a syndrome of a victim in relations and with colleagues, and with "friends", and with the liked person.
The reasons, as a rule, lie in childhood: they are "unmarried children" who lacked parental attention, who were always the second person after a brother or sister who are used to having less benefits than someone. They have seen from childhood as an attitude towards themselves as a second-rate person, because of which they have a conviction: "I am a second-class person, I do not deserve better." Whatever the belief, life will always give you confirmation, in which case the person unconsciously refuses to be kind and sympathetic people and turns around those who are ready to use it.
How to get rid of the victim's syndrome?
To defeat the syndrome of the victim, you need the help of a therapist. But if you are seriously sick of this state of affairs, gather the will into a fist and try to act yourself:
- Pay attention to your successes, write them down in a notebook.
- Pay attention to your positive features, write down them.
- Every day you say to yourself: "I'm an excellent person, worthy of all the best, and my opinion should be considered."
- Do not do anything that you do not want - but help, not favors.
- Refuse negative thoughts about yourself, pay attention to what is good in you.
Control your thinking 15-20 days, and it will become a habit. Gradually, you will change the type of behavior, and you will never again be a victim. This information is not enough to read, it needs to be practiced daily. If you can not deal with yourself. Address to the psychotherapist.