If tender feelings arise for the first time, the thought "it seems that I fell in love" leads us into a state of panic. And okay, if I fell in love with a casual acquaintance, but what if I fell in love with a guy I thought was my best friend or a married man? Let's look at these difficult situations together and find a way out of them.
What if I fell in love with a friend?
Fell in love with a friend, so what, what's the difficulty? You share with the friend various experiences, here share also it. Yes, there are fears that he will not reciprocate, that this news will baffle him. But if a person is dear to you, it is better to be frank with him, together you will think up what to do with such a sudden feeling. Or maybe your feelings will be mutual, remember how many happy married couples tell of their decision to get married in this way: "we were best friends". So do not pull with your confession, the earlier you sort out your relationship, the better. The hidden feeling will only weigh you down.
What if I fell in love with a married colleague?
Romantic relationships with colleagues on the job and already deliver a lot of problems in love - this is gossip in the team, and disapproval of the authorities. And if the colleague, on whom your choice has fallen, here and at all though from work quit, yes in other city move. But not everything is so tragic, from this situation there is a way out. First, you need to understand yourself and decide whether you are allowed to have a relationship with a married man. If your answer is categorical "no", then you have to cope with this feeling yourself. Try to see not only the dignity of a colleague, but also disadvantages. As soon as you succeed, love will begin to give up their positions. Better yet, at work, pay more attention to your job responsibilities, and not to nice colleagues - and cure yourself of falling in love, and make a career.
If you understand that starting a romance with a married man is not very good and you allow this opportunity for yourself only in extreme cases, evaluate the current situation, maybe this is the extreme case. Try to learn more about the relationship of a colleague with his wife, can there be a happy family and does not smell. Quite often, marriage is nothing more than a contract of cohabitation, and the upbringing of children, feelings do not go there. In such families, the spouses have lovers, and they are not satisfied with the appearance of these scandals.
Another thing, if you do not see anything shameful in a relationship with a married man, and you deeply and sincerely do not care if he is happy with his wife or not. Then the path you have is free, tempt, get it at your own disposal and watch how love disappears. Just do try to make these maneuvers accurately, do not disturb your moral principles, but you hardly need to meet with his wife and scandals with her.
What if I'm married and in love?
It does not matter who the lady fell in love with, the best friend, the boss or the husband of her sister. At the forefront is another circumstance - it itself is not free. If you have such a nuisance, try to calm down and look at the situation soberly. Answer yourself the following questions:
- How do you feel about your husband?
- How does he treat you?
- Do you want to save the family or are ready to sacrifice everything for the sake of hobby, which can be fleeting?
If answering these questions, you decided that your own husband and family is most important for you, then love for another man will have to be eradicated by all available means. In fact, why do you need dubious adventures, if your husband loves you, and your love for him has not disappeared, you just forgot about her a little, charming another man.
If you admit the novel "on the side", then think 10 times and make sure that you have acting abilities - you will have to lie to your husband and children (if any) and to your mutual friends.