As a rule, the authoritarian style of family education is not very warm. It is characterized by the predominance of the type of "parent-child" communication. All without exception, decisions are made by adults (parents) who believe that their child should always and always obey.
Features of authoritarian style
- With authoritarian education, parents practically do not show their children the love for them. Therefore, from the side it often seems that they are a little bit removed from their offspring.
- Parents constantly give orders and indicate what and how to do, while there is no room for any compromise.
- In a family where the authoritarian style of upbringing prevails, qualities such as obedience, following traditions and respect are especially appreciated.
- The rules are never discussed. It is generally believed that adults are right in all cases, so quite often disobedience is punished by physical means.
- Parents always limit their independence, not including the need to take his opinion into account. At the same time everything is accompanied by constant strict control.
- Children, because they constantly obey orders, subsequently become non-initiative. At the same time, authoritarian parents expect unjustified independence from them as a result of their children's upbringing. Children, in turn, are rather passive, since all their actions are reduced to meeting the needs of the parent.
Disadvantages of authoritarian style of education
The authoritarian style of family education has many disadvantages for children. So, already in adolescence, it is because of him that conflicts constantly arise. Those teenagers who are more active start to just rebel and do not want to carry out parental assignments. As a result, children become more aggressive, and often completely abandon the parent's nest.
Statistics confirm that boys from such families are more prone to violence. They are usually insecure in themselves, constantly suppressed, and the level of self-esteem is quite low. As a result, all hatred and anger are betrayed by others.
Such relations completely exclude the presence of spiritual intimacy between parents and children. In such families there is no mutual attachment, which ultimately leads to the development of alertness towards all others.
Therefore, in the process of education it is very important to give the child freedom of action. However, this does not mean that it should be left only to itself.