Children, of course, flowers of life, but how difficult it is to grow them! Quite often you can see how Mom tries to explain something to the child, but he does not seem to hear it and continues to be hooliganious and capricious. That's what to do if the child does not listen to the parents at all?
Why does the child not obey the parents?
You think what to do with a very naughty child, blaming everything for him. But before you swear, think about why a child does not listen to you, maybe this is your fault? After all, the child's behavior is his reaction to the world around him, including you. Here are the most common mistakes that parents allow in education, resulting in a very naughty child.
- Why do children not listen to their parents? They just do not know which of you to listen to - the mother forbids something to do, but the father allows (or vice versa).
- The child does not want to obey you, because you demand too much from him and do not show what and how he should do. The kid just does not know what you want from him, and you still swear at him.
- You constantly forbid him everything, without explaining why it should not be done. The child, realizing that he can not do anything, except that sitting next to his mother and watching TV or a window, will naturally begin to resist. As soon as he starts such protests, it depends on the baby. Some children can spend hours sitting in one place, sketching a landscape sheet, and there are also restless people who, it seems, can be in different corners of the apartment.
- Do you think that you spend all your free time with your child? Is it so? Perhaps he just suffers from a lack of attention and with his vagaries and small dirty tricks tries to show how he misses you.
What if the child does not obey?
Now that it is clear to us why the child does not obey, it becomes clear what to do and how to cope with the disobedient child.
- Do not cancel each other's orders. If you have forbidden something to the child, then your husband (grandparents, aunts, uncles) should not allow the baby to do it. Otherwise, the child will understand that parental prohibitions can be circumvented - why obey your mother if your father allows everything?
- If you require obedience from the child, then learn and be true to your word. Try to fulfill your promises, and if you told the child that you can not solve something to him, then insist on your own. The child will not be able to respect you, and, consequently, will not be obeyed, if you yourself do not respect yourself and your decisions.
- Never lose your temper, do not shout at the child. Firstly, you will not achieve anything by shouting, only you will frighten the kid and bring you to tears. And, secondly, if the vagaries of the child is an attempt to get your attention, then by your reaction you just confirm his guesses - if my mother pays attention to me, only when I am a hooligan, then I need to do this more often.
- You do not need to control every step of the child (do not go there, do not do it, but you need to play with the machine so, but not otherwise). Yes, joint games with parents are necessary to the child, but let him be independent. Start playing with the baby, and then give him freedom.
- Learn to listen to the child, not everything that babies say nonsense and moods. Your child is a person, even if very small, so you should also respect him. And parents, especially if this is the first child in the family, often ignore this moment, forbidding the kid everything that is possible, explaining nothing to him, they say, is small yet, still does not understand anything. Maybe he has not grown to philosophical utterances, but elementary things can be understood and if the mother does not allow him to play, draw, put on those things that he likes, then the child will understand that they do not like him and will be even more capricious. And maybe he will start to listen to you, but he will grow up morose, in the future he will have problems with communication, and you will be surprised "how come he has so many complexes?". And everything from the moment when he decided for a long time that no one likes him and no one expects anything good from him. Of course, in all the child can not indulge, but to limit it too much, is also not true.