The apartment issue, contrary to the statement of the classic, spoiled not only the Muscovites. Most young families are forced to huddle in one-room apartments, or even in rooms, neighboring with parents and other relatives. When the two of you are not going anywhere, because in order to seclude a sufficiently closed door. But when a child is born in a family, it becomes more and more difficult.
Undoubtedly, sex takes in the family life is not the last place. Yes there is a sin to conceal - it is simply necessary for a full family life, normal relations between husband and wife and elementary for physical health. But often young parents find themselves in a situation that there is a desire, and there is no opportunity for its realization, as in a bearded joke. Therefore, we have to go to various tricks, reduce the intimate life to short hasty acts, hide in the bathroom and kitchen, waiting until the child falls asleep.
It is especially difficult for those who have to sleep with a baby in one room, because a matured child sleeps much more sensitively than an infant and risks to wake up, finding the parents for "this." Those who have their own room are certainly easier, but it is important to remember to close the door to the castle, because a child can easily come to the parents in the middle of the night because he saw a terrible dream, was frightened or heard strange sounds.
Of course, such situations are in themselves traumatic, therefore, if possible, they should be avoided. But if this has happened, it is important to react correctly, because this can significantly affect the further attitude of your child in the sexual side of life. From the reaction of the parents it depends whether this will become a trauma for the child or will soon be forgotten, as a completely ordinary situation.
So, the child found you behind "this," what to do?
- evaluate the reaction of the baby - depending on the age, he may get scared and cry, become interested and start asking questions or simply going back to sleep;
- do not shout or scold the child. Be calm and do not show the mind that something extraordinary happened;
- Dress and go to the child, find out from him the reason for the awakening;
- often from the side of the child sex looks like an act of violence, father's aggression towards the mother, so it's important to show with your calm, kindly manner that nothing terrible has happened. If the parents are embarrassed, fussy and nervous, the child can see in this a confirmation of their fears, which may subsequently affect his intimate life;
- if the child starts asking questions, it is better to leave them until the morning. The explanations entirely depend on your imagination. If you are not ready to conduct an educational program on reproduction and the sexual sphere , you can think of something, for example, that the father made massage to his mother, hence the sounds and moans. It can also be said that in this way, grown-up people who are married and who love each other show their feelings to each other without going into the physiological details of the process;
- it is not necessary to suppress and ignore the legitimate questions that arise in connection with what has been seen. Let the child get better answers from you than from friends around the yard or the garden;
- do not tell the child that you just "played", because in his understanding the game is intended primarily for children, so the kid can take offense at you for not calling him to play with you.
This situation can be stressful not only for crumbs, but for parents. But the desire to avoid it is not an excuse to give up sex altogether. Just be vigilant, move for these purposes in the kitchen or bathroom, change the time of comfort, for example, after going to morning sex , when the sleep of a kid is particularly strong, to teach him to knock on the door of his parent's bedroom, to do it when he is in the garden or walking with grandmother.