Very often children experience a huge number of different fears, most of them groundless. Some are temporary and appear only in certain age periods. Such fears as anxiety, anxiety or fear of heights are normal emotional and instinctive fears, most of them congenital. There are also purchased. These include fears that appear in the process of intimidation by parents. It is about them that will be discussed in this article.
Who are the children scared of their parents?
In each country there is a culture, mentality, especially the upbringing of the child and, accordingly, their methods of bullying the child, if he refuses to obey. So let's look at the example of some countries, who scare the parents of their children:
- In England, many different monsters have been invented for these purposes, but the most popular and known to us from the cinema is the Boogeyman. For several hundred years, the English have frightened their children with tales of a terrible monster that hides somewhere in the room and if the child does not obey, then the Boogeyman comes out of a secluded place and frightens him.
- In France, the thunder of nightly nightmares, is Kostoprav, from quite a real profession. He is usually portrayed as an angry old man with a bag in which he hides the naughty kids. According to the stories, Kostopravy wanders through the cities and takes with him children who have played and do not want to go to bed. And his favorite place of habitation is under the porch of the house, where he sits before dark.
- In Germany, the popularity of Krampus. This shaggy, horned beastlike monster, according to legend, accompanies St. Nicholas on Christmas Eve and punishes children along the way who hooliganed the whole previous year. There are versions that Krampus stuffs disobedient kiddies into his bag, carries him to the cave, where he eats for dinner or takes him to his castle, and then drops into the sea. This is what kind of parent he likes best.
- In Russia, as there are many horror stories for intimidating disobedient children. It can be characters of folk tales (Baba Yaga, Koschey, Nightingale the Robber, etc.), a wolf, a wolf, some even frighten a policeman with an uncle. Among them, the most popular is the butterfly. He is most often mentioned by his parents when they want to put the children to bed, without the special desire of the children. So what does the butterfly look like? Usually he is not described in any way, that children could imagine the most terrible image. Although some draw it in the form of an old man with fangs or a hairy monster. According to the stories of his parents, he hides under the bed and if a child gets out of bed, he will certainly fall into the hands of a babayka.
Is it possible to frighten a child?
Let's figure out whether it is possible to frighten a child with a woman and whether it is possible to frighten a child. Psychologists say that this is one of the worst methods of raising a child, bordering on the use of physical strength. If a child is constantly scared by militiamen with sticks, doctors with syringes, sweaters, he gradually loses confidence in the world, becomes more withdrawn. This can all turn into new problems, such as: fear of the dark, fear of being alone, withdrawn. At intimidation the kid instead of parental support feels anxiety and alarm, that it can give to any uncle or it will be eaten by a huge monster.
Not all parents have enough free time to explain clearly to the child why they can not do it, anyway. It is much easier to intimidate him with a monster or worse, to apply physical strength, but these methods will lead to nothing good. The most important thing is for a child to feel the love and support of his parents, and not live in a constant fear of the appearance of a bamboo.