The time has not completely faded away when the family was considered created only after the official registration in the registry office and the wedding in the church. Gradually, the custom of the wedding began to disappear from our everyday life. And for today already and official registration is not in vogue. Many families, not only young people, consider it sufficient to live together and conduct a joint household in order to be called a family.
Civil marriage - for and against
The custom of civil marriage we took from the Dutch people. Before God, people of different faiths can not bind themselves to people for certain reasons. Such families were created with the approval of the authorities. Today, by civil marriage, we mean marriages, without any formalities. The attitude to civil marriage is ambiguous, both among psychologists and among ordinary people. In the direction of civil marriage, men tend to be more inclined. His independence, even if nominal, the man tries to keep to the last. Women are more prone to stability and reliability. And most people agree to free relations in order to keep a loved one closer to themselves. Although exceptions are everywhere. And in the modern age of lady politicians and business ladies, such exceptions are increasingly encountered.
Pros and Cons of Civil Marriage
As they say, how many people, so many opinions. Accordingly, the topic of pluses and minuses can be developed indefinitely. Freedom of relations without any obligations and the opportunity to test your feelings and compatibility in advance is very good. But the test can be delayed. For this time there is a joint property, common children. People in a civil marriage feel less responsible for each other, which leads to a loss of trust and unnecessary disagreements. Especially for young people.
The advantages of civil marriage are more obvious for mature people who have already survived a legal marriage, and the bitterness of divorce. Such people, starting a new relationship, experience a fear of repeated mistakes. And for them, civil marriage represents a second chance in life (and sometimes the third and fourth ...). At the same time, once experiencing the pain of disappointment and loss, it is much more responsible to relate to the new relationship. They value them and do not need an additional stimulus in the form of a stamp in their passport. For young people, a civil marriage is a way to get to know each other better. Most of the relationships young people of our time begin, based on passion and mutual sympathy. Civil marriage provides an opportunity to make a serious step to determine whether this is really just a sexual attraction or something more.
The problems of civil marriage are more social than psychological. If people knowingly agree to a civil marriage in order to try themselves, then this is still normal. Such couples are slow to acquire children and acquire real estate. But everything happens. As often happens, when the civil family disintegrates, the children remain the wife, and the most significant property to the husband. Simply formalized everything is usually the "head of the family."
The advantages and disadvantages of civil marriage can be considered for a long time and from different points of view. In any case, the main in the relationship will be mutual feelings and honesty in front of each other and themselves. Someone diverges a month after the official registration, and someone lives happily in a civil marriage and brings up several children.