It turns out that there are crises of development of children under the age of one year, as well as a special calendar indicating when one should expect another deterioration in mood. These periods cause a sharp change in the behavior of the baby. Not everyone heard about them, as the crisis is usually 3, 5 years old, and others, and the babies are somehow unjustifiably forgotten, but this does not mean that they do not experience such problems in their several months of age.
What is the child's crisis schedule up to a year?
According to observations of children's psychologists, many years of studying the behavior of infants, their entire life is divided into light and dark moments. In the table of crises, lying in wait for a child under the age of one, which they made up, it is expressed in the form of weeks of a baby's life going in order. Each of them is colored either neutral (white color), or gray - the very beginning of the crisis. Black, means directly the crisis time, and the cloud with rain, apparently, my mother's tears - those days when the parents are ready to climb on the wall.
But not everything is so bad and hopeless, because in addition to gray-black periods there are also sunny ones, when the kid is cheerful, active and enjoys life in the literal sense of the word. In total, there are 7 crisis periods for the year up to 5, 8, 12, 19, 26, 37 and 46 weeks. They last from two to five days and have their own characteristics.
Why do crises occur in a child under one year?
Carefully looking at the calendar of the crises of a child up to a year, you can see a certain pattern - for "black" days there are always solar, and there are not so few of them, and despair is definitely not worth it.
But that's why these unpleasant time periods arise is not entirely clear. It turns out that they point out that the baby is growing up. The point is that at this time there is a so-called jump in growth, but not in the physical plane, but in the psychological one. This is the same as a child wears the same panties throughout the winter, and then grows up to 3 sizes over the summer, and this is not trousers, but shorts.
The same thing happens with the psyche, which in children is very vulnerable. As soon as the child begins to perceive himself as something separate from Mom, the first crisis occurs. Then he realizes that he has the right to his own feelings - and this is the second and so on.
It is impossible to completely avoid the crises of the first year. But to soften their manifestation is quite within the power of parents, especially mom, since that's what the kid trusts most. In acute periods, it is necessary to spend as much time as possible with the child.
Very important is the physical contact, especially in the first half of the year. With the baby it is necessary to talk, pump on the hands, show caress and care. Then he will not feel such an alarm, because the confidence of his mother will gradually be transferred to him.