For many years, the debate has not subsided over whether friendship between a man and a woman is found. Many believe that for a long time to maintain such a relationship is impossible, because they will end sooner or later in bed. But maybe, you will not spoil friendship or these concepts are incompatible?
Are there any friendly sex?
They say that those couples are happy where lovers are best friends. And this is really so, the relationship is not built only on passion. But is this the reverse statement, is it true that you will not spoil real friendship with sex? Most psychologists believe that this will certainly happen. In the end, the relationship will go into the phase of love or cease altogether. So the answer to the question of friendly sex - it exists, however, very short. Let's see in detail why this happens.
Sex is not a hindrance to friendship!
Those who do not think this way are as wrong as it might seem at first glance. Friendly sex has many advantages, which makes it attractive.
- for example, friends do not have to try to look good in the eyes of each other, to seek common ground - they are already close;
- when friends from time to time have sex, none of them make plans for the future, no romantic feelings between them;
- during an intimate, friends can relax, because there is no fear of failure. Even if it happens, they will only mock on the subject of an unsuccessful attempt, but this will not affect their relations in any way.
You can not ruin sex with sex, you'll destroy her sex
Ask why it is so categorical, because above described a fairly convenient model of sexual relations? The fact of the matter is that this is a model that does not work for a long time in practice. And for what reasons:
- people who say that sex is not a hindrance to friendship, do not take into account one very interesting point - intimacy for friendship is nothing more than the mechanical satisfaction of one's physiological needs at the expense of another person. Since there is a ban on any love feelings, the partners just use each other, as they would do with a guy (girl) taken out for the evening. Tell me, can you name the friend of the person who used you?
- we are all living people, and we want warmth and understanding, most men and women want to have sex with a loved one, not just a friend. Therefore, it is not surprising that, despite all prohibitions, in one of the partners (more often it's a girl), in the course of time, there are love feelings. Well, if it is mutual, then the path to a happy family is open. And if not? Most likely, there will be a complete breakdown of any relationship;
- Of course, it is possible that when friends have sex, and they have no feelings for each other. But the feeling of spiritual
closeness, which is so related to man, also disappears; - one can not help talking about reputation, sex with a friend can interfere with building a relationship with another partner. Now you can not say "this is just a friend, he is like my younger brother", no one will believe you, any call of a male colleague will cause an explosion of jealousy.
As you can see, the negative consequences of sex on friendship can be quite serious, so before deciding to decide on it, remember what leads to friendly sex, and think whether you need this result.