Unfortunately, practically in every family there is a situation when parents with horror learn that their so cute, modest and well-bred child is not only familiar with indecent expressions, but also successfully uses them. Of course, in a family where foul language is an element of conversational speech, this fact will not be shocking. But here are the parents, for whom the taboo lexicon is indeed under the ban, may become embarrassed. What to do, how to wean a child to swear with mate? Most importantly - do not panic and strive to burn this muck out of your favorite chadushka with "hot iron". In the struggle for the purity of the language, parents can not do without coolness and cunning, but what approach to choose depends, first of all, on the age of the child.
Foul language - problem solving
- A kid at the age of two or three years does not yet understand the meaning of the curses he says, he simply repeats what he heard as a parrot. That is why the best way to combat bad language at this age is to completely ignore it. In no case should focus on abuse, explain their meaning or frighten the baby with a serious punishment - all this will lead to the opposite effect, because the forbidden fruit, as you know, is sweet. Most likely, in a few days the "bad word" itself will disappear from the vocabulary of the baby.
- A child at the age of four to seven starts to use the mat as a way to attract attention. He already knows perfectly well that these words are bad, they can not be spoken, but he continues to do so. At this age, it is already more difficult to wean the child to swear, but the main rule of success, as before, is parental calm. It is better to start with a confidential conversation with a small foul language, ask him to explain the meaning of the words he uses so dashingly. Let him try to make it available for him: he will tell or draw. Most likely, the child himself does not understand what he says. Therefore, you can cheat - replace the obscene word with a similar sound and meaning usual, as if correcting the child. If such an option is not possible, then it is necessary simply and easily to explain to the child the meaning of curses, emphasizing that these words are very offensive and can not be said that way.
- At the age of eight or twelve years, "adult" words become for the child an attempt to join the adult world, grow in their eyes, win respect from their peers. At this age, parents will have to be quite difficult, because their authority during this period is especially fragile. But even at this age you can fight with foul language: explain to the child that curses in his mouth look stupid and childish, that interest and respect are caused first and foremost by those who speak beautifully and competently, and not the one who fights. You can also introduce a system of penalties: for every swear word the child will have to learn the poem, and in case of disobedience - to lose pocket money , walks or computer games. If the mat becomes
the child means to throw out anger and resentment, then, first of all, parents should show the child that they understand his feelings, his pain, but this does not give him the right to swear, because there are other ways of expressing emotions. - For teens at the age of twelve or fourteen years, the mat ceases to be a means of communication. The teenager already clearly understands the meaning of each word and uses them only when necessary, trying not to use at school and at home, simply passing to slang . To stop a teenager is scolded and a little cunning will help in the company of friends: parents should inform him (directly or indirectly) that, according to psychologists, only those who are not confident in themselves and have problems in sexual life are unnecessarily addicted to using obscene language.