Women, by their nature, in many ways be weaker than men. The desire to adjust, take decisions, trust him and in many respects rely on him deep inside of us, since the time when the responsibility for his entire family lay on the representatives of the stronger sex. But sometimes our complaisance goes to our detriment. Sometimes, a woman trusts a man, this trust is completely unworthy. And as a result - not always happy. What if this man is a husband? How to open your own eyes? How to go against nature by looking at the facts? How to stop loving her husband?
Our habitual love for man is most often based on those good feelings and emotions that we experienced with him in the first stages of the relationship. In the future, the strengthening of this love is facilitated by difficult situations experienced together. A woman from them even more convinced of the fidelity of her choice - she got a decent man, he can protect her, in case of anything. It is important to notice and understand that at some point in time the image of a person in our head is already formed so full that we stop correcting and correcting it with new data.
And what follows - you will easily guess yourself. A person does already behave differently, performs other actions, but we all also see the one who then became close to us. And it turns out that you understand: in the literal sense, it's time to stop loving!
How to stop loving your husband - advice of psychologists
- Take a sheet of paper and a pencil. Try to relax as much as possible, think about your husband. Write out everything that you like about it, everything that you COUNTER about its merits. Write everything, do not be afraid! You yourself will then be able to refute everything.
- When this part is exhausted, force yourself to face the truth. You have long ago subconsciously realized that you are not as good as we would like. But consciously still return to the past, to the image of the man you fell in love with.
- Note for yourself that you are now - probably not the same as the N-th number of years ago. Who really knows this better than you! So it is likely that the man you need now is another. It's just natural.
- Write down all his shortcomings on the sheet. Try not to embellish, not write what you do not really think. Just look at the truth at last, you had the courage to say to yourself: "I want to stop loving my husband."
A little more difficult when a woman does not let go of her past life, then she thinks about how to stop loving her ex-husband. To the method of identifying advantages and disadvantages is to add the old folk wisdom: "Eyes do not see - the heart does not hurt." The minimum number of contacts with the past, a rich life in the present, and once, meeting him by chance on the street, you will have only a warm sadness about the deceased. Such methods in women's forums are confirmed not by a woman who managed and stopped loving her husband.
In the problem of how to stop loving your husband, working with your attitude towards him is only half the success of the case, psychologists say. Very important
More think about yourself, about your life. Do you like what you do, how you live and what you see in the mirror every morning. Try, through a heap of agreement with other people's opinions and compromises, find yourself, your opinion, your view of everything that's happening. The desire to please a loved one, to indulge him in everything, ruins our individuality. Go finally to the sport or dances that you have been dreaming of for so long, study vocals, learn to play the guitar, master Chinese cuisine and make a rearrangement with the mandatory throwing of unnecessary things.
And over time, your respect for yourself will grow so much that you will firmly say: "I stopped loving my husband, I realized - we are not on the road."