Happy relationships are necessarily built on reciprocity, but this is not the easiest way. So some make their lives as simple as possible, choosing the role of a simple consumer. It is generally believed that such behavior is more common for women, but the representatives of the stronger sex sin it. And what to do if a man does not love, but uses you, how do you understand it, what signs should you pay attention to not get caught in the web of such relations?
How to understand what a man has in mind: he loves or uses you?
In principle, the issue is not so complicated, but only when viewed from the side. Since loving women either simply do not pay attention to obvious things, or are happy to engage in self-deception. Of course, sometimes it's not about ugly masculine behavior, but in overstated ladies' expectations or the usual misunderstanding of each other's goals because of the fear of discussing them, but now it's not about that. So, what signs of behavior will manifest if a man does not love, but simply uses a woman?
- Too independent . He is not interested in your opinion on any issue, he can leave without warning, and then call late at night and curl up that he is already at the doorstep. He absolutely does not care what inconvenience he can cause such actions, since the task is to fulfill only his own desires.
- Does not fulfill promises . Yes, most men in courtship period turns into storytellers, essentially embellishing their own possibilities, but female immunity automatically divides all that was said into 10, so there is not much harm from it. But lies in the elementary things should alert. For example, he constantly tells how much he missed, but he does not even have time for a short meeting. He promises to come, and when you call to find out why he lingers, you hear a story about unexpected friends who will be having a night with him.
- Does not care . It is clear that it is impossible to fully adapt to the wishes of another person, everyone has personal aspirations, which may differ from the views of the partner. And this is in the order of things, if to be together constantly, fatigue is formed too quickly. But when there is no elementary attention, which manifests itself in small things, it is worth thinking about. For example, he insists on continuing the walk, even if you can no longer walk on high heels, which are dressed for the delight of his own gaze. Or it quickly disappears when you hear that you have caught a cold without even bothering to inquire about your well-being.
- Bad mood . The partner is constantly in a bad mood, when he communicates with you on the phone, and during meetings he also tries to reduce communication to a minimum, irritably reacting to all your attempts to somehow talk him through.
- The Secret . If a man does not like and uses, he will diligently protect you from meeting with his friends and other close people. Everything is logical: a bed toy or a source of income to let into your life is meaningless. This behavior can also speak about the existence of a second life, which also does not speak of great love.
- Underestimates . You can use a person not only to solve material problems or sexual gratification, it's also a great way to improve your self-esteem . Usually for this purpose they choose insecure girls who are ready to recognize the primacy of the partner in everything, and even consider him a benefactor for paying attention. So if a man is biased in assessing your efforts, always says that you could do better, then probably he just tries to rise at your expense.
If in your life there are several of these signs, then it's time to analyze the relationship, to communicate with the partner, perhaps, all the blame misunderstanding. Much can be corrected by such conversations. If neither conversations, nor actions are able to convince a man that you need to be reckoned with, is it worth continuing to maintain such a relationship ? To be with anybody, if only not one, is it really worth the constant humiliation and nervous breakdowns?