Raising a child is a difficult task, because this is an individual with his desires, emotions and his own opinion. The way in which a child was raised as a child affects all aspects of his later life. That is why this issue should be approached very thoroughly.
If in early childhood the life of the baby is controlled mainly by instincts and emotions, then by the age of 3-4 years, his behavior becomes more conscious. In order to choose the right direction in the upbringing of the child for 4 years, let's consider the key moments of development of kids at this age.
Features of the upbringing of children 4 years
- By the age of 4-5, the child gradually shifts his focus from motor activity to mental activity. He is no longer interested in running and jumping for hours, and more often want to do more quiet games. Attracts kids all kinds of creativity: drawing, modeling, making various crafts. Encourage this behavior, especially if your child is not very diligent, and be sure to take part in his games and classes.
- As for physical development, then 4 years - it's time to give the child to the sports section (gymnastics, swimming). Do not forget about daily walks - it well strengthens immunity, and outdoor games develop a large motor skills.
- If your child already knows the alphabet, you can already start learning to read it . You can also get acquainted with the basics of mathematics. Lesson is better spent in a game form. At this age, the child can already fully master the score to 10, the concept of addition and subtraction by the example of toys.
- In 4 years in all children awaken curiosity. Infinite "why" can disrupt any parent. But this, of course, should not be allowed. The child's questions should be answered directly, without unnecessary details. If you do not own the information you need - just tell the kid about it and promise to find an answer to his tricky question in the near future.
- Most likely, at this age your son or daughter is already attending a kindergarten. If the child has problems with adaptation in the team, you must help him overcome them. First, you need to determine the cause of this (embarrassment, shyness, jealousy, etc.), and then teach the crumb (preferably on specific examples) to communicate correctly with children, share toys or stand up for themselves if necessary. If the problem becomes global, it is better to seek help from a child psychologist.
- In the process of growing up, the child's psyche undergoes certain changes. The baby begins to experience new feelings for himself: resentment, irritation, sadness, shame. He still does not know how to deal with them, and can "behave badly," "do not obey." Support your crumb, tell him that it is normal to experience emotions, that you yourself sometimes feel the same. Explain to the child that it is much more convenient to express your feelings with words and not with bad behavior.
- And praise, and scold, and punish children is necessary. The lack of praise is felt by the children very acutely, and without education the education is more difficult. But keep in mind that you must punish strictly in the case, and make observations so that the child understands what they want from him (for example, say "Speak quietly" instead of "How much you can shout!"). To praise a child is not necessary for what he already knows how to do, but for new achievements or great diligence in some kind of business. In addition, do not forget to tell your four-year-old how you love him, even if his behavior leaves much to be desired.
Differences in the education of a girl and a boy in 4 years
As practice shows, a girl is 4 years lighter than a boy. This is due to the fact that they are often more calm and obedient, and by this age they begin to show purely feminine features. Girls like to play "daughter-mothers", "doctors", "shop" and other role-playing games, often spin in front of a mirror, try on outfits. Encouraging this behavior, support in the daughter confidence that she is the most beautiful - it will help her in the future to have an adequate self-esteem and eventually become feminine. Also girls from an early age should be taught to love cleanliness, accuracy, punctuality.
As for boys, they are by nature more active and often even aggressive. 4 years is the age in which a small member of the stronger sex should already know that girls can not be offended, and understand why. If not, it's time for him to explain it. Parenting must be given to the boy and father, for a four-year-old this is of great importance. In addition, try to put before the child as little as possible prohibitions: the active boy will still find a way to overcome them. The more you spend joint activities and games with the child, the more capable, curious and smart he will grow.