No matter how much her mother loves her baby, no matter how she wants to be with him constantly and be his best friend, in her heart she understands that parental love is not everything, the child needs peer friends. Friendship for children is nothing but the first experience of spiritual intimacy. While building friendly relations, the kid learns to communicate with other people on an equal footing, cope with his own selfishness, show respect for the opinion of other people, come to help, forgive and ask for forgiveness, share attention and care. Psychologists note that on how the child's relationship with friends develops, his mental, physical, mental and emotional development depends to a large extent. If a child can not find friends, then a whole layer of human relations remains inaccessible to him, a huge world remains, a mystery full of joint secrets, fictions, games, raptures and quarrels, which always occur "forever."
The rules of friendship for children are simple - at an early age, children choose friends intuitively, according to the principle "like - do not like". Some babies are open to meet new acquaintances and have a happy ability in any company to immediately become their own. They instantly get friends-buddies. And what if the child by nature is shy and can not find friends? What if he just does not know how to be friends? Without parental assistance and support in this case, he can not do.
How to teach a child to be friends?
- Any friendship begins with dating. Very often the child does not want to be friends, because he simply does not know how to get acquainted. Teach your child this art, playing with his favorite toys several scenes of dating in different situations. Explain that very much depends on the mood and facial expression, so when you meet you can not be a beech and frown. And certainly not worth falling into despair, if in response to an offer to get acquainted with a refusal, you just need to try again a little later.
- Show the child the fullness and charm of friendly relations by example - tell about your childhood friends, about what games you played, how you spent time together, what general secrets you had, how you quarreled and reconciled. Talk to him about what friendship is, what it is valuable for children and adults.
- Perhaps the reason that no one is friends with a child is hidden in the fact that he is very jealous of his toys and does not share with anyone. Talk it over with the baby, explain to him that it is not necessary to take the most favorite toys for a walk, but those that you need to give to play for other children. Invite the child to treat other kids with sweets, apples or cookies.
- Organize for local children some kind of common occupation - playing football, launching a kite, going to the theater, a movie or a zoo. Children will receive a lot of pleasant emotions and they will have topics for joint discussion.
- Do not say "no" if the kid wants to invite one of his friends to visit. Let among the set of toys there will be necessarily those in which it is fun and interesting to play with friends.
Do not be lazy to join the children's games, but do not take a leading position. - From time to time, ask the child how things are with his friends. In conversation, often praise the children that your baby has chosen as friends, let him feel your support and approval.
- Leave the right to choose friends for the child himself. Do not impose more suitable candidates in your opinion, by this you just awaken the child's desire to do spite.
Teach your child to be friends, because some childhood friends become true companions in our lives and in the future.