Ordinary average family: a beautiful and clever wife, children, work and everything seems to be all right, and the soul lives in the soul, but ... despite all these charms of life, almost every such family has one drawback - husbands sometimes turn "left". Today, few people will be surprised at this state of affairs. And the men themselves are used to comment on this situation with the phrase "the leftist strengthens the marriage." But why should a man be a mistress, if so everything is good and wonderful? Let's try to understand this issue.
Why do married men have mistresses?
If you plunge into history, you can remember that polygamy is a purely masculine feature. Our distant male ancestors shared the box with several ladies at once and this was vital for the entire tribe, as several women gave more guarantees that the offspring would grow genetically strong. After many centuries, this feature of the survival of the genus survived only in animals. However, in men this position was fixed at the level of instinct.
As for the norms of morality, today not everyone can tell you why men start lovers. Most male representatives simply do not know what to say. However, there are reasons dictated not only by the inner male instinct and the urge to conquer on the love fronts.
Why do men look for mistresses?
The role of a man in society has long overgrown with a huge number of stereotypes. He should not cry, he must be strong, support the family, feed her, earn money, etc. Thus, it turns out that even a man can not express his emotions. He, the freedom-loving, constantly has to play the role of a caring father of the family and a faithful beautiful husband. However, even if there are no disagreements with the wife and in the family everything is fine, this "patterned" behavior invariably leads a man to stress and health problems. In addition, in most cases, the family life of men begins just the moment of transition from youth to youth (23-30 years), and not everyone is ready to give up the old way of life in favor of the family. Most people rarely see friends, do household chores, travel to relatives, and wives do not particularly favor hiking their faithful in the garage and beer bars. But someone needs to prove their strength and importance. Here then there is a variant "go left".
But why a married man a mistress, there are several options here:
- the opportunity to once again feel like a young man in the prime of his life. That's why men aged most often look for young girls;
- the opportunity to pour out the soul and your emotions. This is a very common reason that a man wants from a mistress. After all, she will always accept him with all his faults, support and listen, unlike his wife, who only does that she saws him for days on end;
- the opportunity to gain new sensations. We all remember those emotions that experienced at the very beginning of the relationship. The lack of such romance also often leads a man to the idea of the appearance of a mistress;
- sexual satisfaction. In most families, which have existed for about a dozen years, intimate relationships gradually go to the background. Or there are cases when the wife does not quite suit a man in bed. And few of the men will miss the opportunity to again become desirable and sexually attractive.
Male view of the "double life"
However, this is not all the reasons why men start lovers. The psychology of a man is such that the mistress is already an extreme case, when there is no other way to do it. And the fault lies on the shoulders of women, who by their quibbles, scandals and inattention force a man to seek support on his side. So, to note women are the most frequent answers, why men have permanent lovers:
- quite often in our time to have a mistress became a part of the high position of a man. It must necessarily be a model appearance and correspond to the position of a man. Thanks to this reason, there appeared famous jokes about secretaries. Love does not smell here either. Only money and male egoism;
- also the reason is a long family life, when everything becomes familiar and ordinary. And if the spouses do not have the opportunity to rest from each other, more often than not, the search for novelty leads a man to the thought of treason;
- another option serves as a response to the frequent female question "Do men love their mistresses?". It happens that the thought of betraying the man was not, but suddenly came strong love. This happens in cases where the wife caused only a feeling of love, and in life suddenly there was a real feeling. By the way, this is the main reason why men go to their mistresses.
And what about these same mistresses?
Whether the mistresses are happy in their role, the question is controversial. Most often, these women are doomed to be lonely until they find a free man. As practice shows, most men are satisfied with the state of things when a beloved wife is waiting at home, and on the side there is a mistress who always raises self-esteem and gives sexual satisfaction. And even if the wife is completely satisfied with a man, this is not a fact of what he will not change. Much more important is how she will behave when she learns of her husband's betrayal and how wisely she will act in such a situation. In the end, if every convicted treason ended in divorce, then the statistics of surviving marriages would now be almost zero.