Constructive criticism

To make a compliment and correctly respond to it is sometimes quite difficult. But what about criticism then? Especially with her kind, like constructive criticism? After all, in order to get an adequate response to your words, you first need to speak out correctly, so that a person perceives you not as an aggressor, but as an adviser.

First, let's look at the basics of constructive criticism. What is its essence and differences from destructive. Constructive criticism is comments on any topic (work, clothes, behavior, etc.) made to your interlocutor with your iron arguments. That is, the remark is not invented and is not taken from your head. At the same time, each spoken word you can argue and prove the person you criticize. Constructiveness is recognized only in the form of a dialogue, if you are rude and criticized, not giving the opportunity to say a word to the interlocutor, then it is closer to destructive criticism. Simply put, constructiveness in criticism is present if you correctly and tactfully point out to your opponent for perfect mistakes.

Constructive criticism consists of three main elements:

1. Honest and open words in the face of a person in whom something does not suit us. That is, the complete absence of hypocrisy, only honesty and only openness.
2. Accepting the view and understanding of the criticized person regarding the topic of conversation. A gentle attempt to explain what exactly his mistake is.
3. Ultimately, getting the desired result.

Rules for constructive criticism

• in any case do not start a conversation with strangers. You can criticize only in private, when no one else can hear you;
• It is necessary to listen to the interlocutor, no matter how stupid your words seem to you. Discuss all possible solutions to the problem. Indicate inaccuracies and shortcomings. Your partner's opinion deserves respect for any of your attitudes towards him;
• treat yourself sparingly to the pride of your interlocutor. The tone of the conversation should be calm, confident, without shouting and insulting;
• to start praise the interlocutor for his success, and only then gradually go to the indication of his flaws;
• Do not impose your point of view. To speak it out is necessary in the course of discussion of the arisen situation;
• Criticizing the partner, focus on the mistakes you have made, hinting at the fact that no one is perfect;
• Do not press psychologically. Hint at possible ways out of this situation;
• Do not criticize a person's personality. After all, the conversation is not about his character as a whole, but about the perfect deed.

The art of constructive criticism is to not adjust the criticized person against himself. Do not give the opportunity to show aggression and hostility towards you. After all, your goal is not to make yourself a vindictive enemy, but to explain to a person what his main mistake is. In this case, you do not set a goal to humiliate the interlocutor, to shake his confidence in himself and his forces, to kill in him morale and spirit. If you can learn how to properly criticize, you can make your criticism productive, and achieve with it the originally conceived goal. It depends on it, you can keep friendly relations with the interlocutor or not. Destructiveness in such conversations can lead to disagreement in relationships (family, friends, workers ...).

The psychology of constructive criticism highlights its importance and necessity in everyday life. In no one of the main spheres of life it is impossible to do without constructive criticism. Discussing and solving pressing problems in a calm, constructive manner with mutual respect is a move on, a new level in the game called life.