No woman on the day of her wedding even for a minute thinks about the fact that marriage in the future may be unsuccessful. But life is sometimes unpredictable, because divorce is modern and cruel, but the reality that every third married couple encounters.
When the breakdown of the family concerns only the husband and wife, the issue of divorce is settled mainly by a civilized way. And what if there is a divorce in the family with a small child for up to a year or when the wife is pregnant? Is it possible?
The legal aspect
According to the established norms prescribed by lawmakers in the Family Code, the right to file an application with the Registry Office for the termination of marriage in the presence of a child who has not reached one year is vested only in the spouse. A husband without her consent has no right to initiate a divorce case. The same law establishes in case the woman is pregnant. If to generalize, then divorce before the birth of a child and with the presence of an infant is possible only on the initiative of the wife.
State bodies always try to take the position of children. Whatever relationship is formed between the wife and husband, for the child, mom and dad - a unique holistic world that revolves around him. The real practice is as follows: the judiciary, and the divorce with young children in the family occurs only in court, after submitting the application give time for possible reconciliation of the spouses, which is calculated in months. Then the spouses are waiting for court hearings, which can be from one to three. This will also take many months. To avoid such red tape, do not rush to file for divorce. It is possible that for a period until the child turns 1 year old, divorce is no longer needed. It's no secret that the baby is a test for a young family. During the year, everything can be adjusted, and the probability of a divorce with a one-year-old child in his arms will remain an unpleasant memory.
Tips for former wives
If pieces of the broken cup could not be glued together, and you made the cardinal decision to divorce immediately after the birth of the child, do not even think about the fact that life is over! The era when a divorced woman was indecent, long behind. There is even an opinion that former wives, thanks to an unfortunate but valuable experience, in the future create full and happy marriages, taking into account the mistakes made in the previous one.
Those who will tell you that children only need their own fathers, do not listen. Of course, running with a barely familiar young man in the registry office is not worth it, but rejecting a man who helps both you and the baby is silly.
No matter how painful your divorce was, do not shift its burdens on the baby. Do not denigrate his father, maintain as far as possible relations with relatives in his line. Remember, in the end, that even recently you walked happily with this man under the crown, and then gave him a child. Even if it seems to you that the heavens fell on your head, keep it proudly - "everything will pass, and this - too."
The kid should feel that the parents' love for him did not become weaker after the divorce. If for very young children this period of your life can pass unnoticed, then the elders will have to explain everything. Do not divorce them. And the main thing: single mothers do not exist! "Single mother" is just a legal term. How can one be lonely if every minute of life is filled with cares for the growing child? Do not let negative emotions take possession of your thoughts. Today, the main task is to educate a new man, who will necessarily become a person. A worthy man and a good stepfather for your baby, you will definitely meet.