You probably think that if it were not for your congenital shyness, everything in your life would have developed differently. After all, so often because of your uncertainty you do not express your opinion, do not defend your rightness, do not enter into acquaintance with interesting people. And long and sorrowful reflections on how brilliantly you would have acted in a missed situation, if not for shyness , lead to the fact that you miss a lot of opportunities in passing ... Yes, it's really time for you to think about how to get rid of shyness.
We estimate the possibilities
First of all, you need to get a paper and a pen, our plan of action how to deal with shyness contains a lot of written work.
Describe those situations when you are overwhelmed by shyness and what is its cause:
- your appearance;
- your voice;
- your knowledge;
- doubts about the competence of their opinions.
In your shyness, outside people are never to blame, no matter how "bad" and "not sensitive" they seemed to you. The reason is inside you.
We write affirmations, which we will read several times a day, loudly and confidently:
- I can easily cope with my goals, desires, dreams, realizing them;
- I'm positive;
- I'm successful;
- I am beautifull;
- I am easy in communication;
- I am confident in myself.
Affirmations should consist of what you are aiming for. They should act like a self-suggestion.
Create your own label
Shyness and shyness lead to the fact that people can not appreciate your skills, abilities, skills in full. You just hide them and do not show them because of shyness. Therefore, in order to create a positive "shortcut" in the heads of others do the following:
- always keep your back straight, shoulders spread;
- your voice should not tremble, speak slowly;
- Look in the face to the interlocutor;
- Show your strengths;
- work on the weak.
As for voice, posture and look - you should practice these skills at home in front of a mirror. Your strengths will begin to manifest naturally, as soon as you master the voice, look, posture , and over the minuses you need to work. If you do not like your figure - correct it, or humble yourself and love yourself for who you are. If you do not like your style - fix it, hairstyle - do it, walk - learn to walk the way you like. It is much easier to complain about shyness and your shortcomings than to correct them with your own labor.