For a number of reasons, men and women are forced to be in a state of sexual rest. Sexual abstinence is transferred by people in each case individually, and the degree of depression or irritation from the inability to satisfy sexual hunger depends on the temperament and psychotype of a person.
What does abstinence mean?
Sexual abstinence is in the scientific medical language sexual abstinence or deprivation, characterized by forced rest in sexual life . The reasons for abstinence can be different:
- health status;
- absence of a partner for sexual relations;
- spiritual practices;
- celibacy dinner (celibacy);
- upcoming competitions among athletes;
- asexuality;
- individual personal reasons.
Types of abstinence:
- Partial abstinence - the impossibility of a real sexual intercourse is compensated by masturbation or nocturnal pollutions in men (spontaneous ejaculation).
- Total abstinence - sexual activity in all manifestations is completely absent.
Why abstinence?
The justification of abstinence is based on the reasons that caused this condition. A short break in sex life helps to shake the feelings of partners and enhances their attractiveness for each other. Long abstinence is necessary to restore strength during and after severe illnesses, when all energy is directed at restoring balance in the body and wasting energy during sexual intercourse can aggravate a person's condition. Conscious sexual total abstinence or celibacy is austerity , which is an important condition in the practice of spirituality in some religions.
Abstinence in women
For women, harmonious sexual intimacy with a partner is the key to a stable and happy relationship. In the vicinity, a woman blooms and creates a positive energy background around herself. Abstinence from sex for women is more common because of their physiological characteristics: menstrual period, pregnancy. Representatives of the fair sex with a high level of sexual temperament (choleric, sanguine) are hard to endure periods of abstinence, in contrast to phlegmatic and melancholic women.
The use of abstinence in women
Long abstinence from sex in women with a low level of sexual temperament does not have any negative impact and even stabilizes the activity of the nervous system. During menstruation, a sexual break prevents the entry of pathogenic bacteria into the uterine cavity, which is vulnerable these days. It is important to remember that short-term sexual abstinence for a number of reasons is not an excuse for despair, but an opportunity to focus on positive aspects:
- Renewal of the senses. At the next intimacy, there is an aggravation of the perception of relations, everything happens on a "new" wave, with a more intense spectrum of feelings.
- Sublimation is the process of transforming sexual unspent energy into creation or creation. Creation of works of art, new projects, the flow of ideas.
- Abstinence, as a necessity during pregnancy - in I and III trimesters with the threat of miscarriage. Motherhood is an important component of a woman's family happiness and the benefits of abstinence are obvious.
Abstinence in women - consequences
Sexual abstinence in girls and young women does not lead to any serious problems, but when a woman has had an active sexual life for a sufficient amount of time, sexual abstinence without good reason can cause different heaps of problems and ailments "prescribed" in the body for physical and mental levels. Consequences of abstinence can be as follows:
- total hormonal imbalance;
- obesity;
- stagnant phenomena in the small pelvis that contribute to the formation of varicose veins;
- growth of tumors (myoma, fibromyoma, mastopathy);
- Thyroid gland diseases;
- decrease in the number of immune cells;
- pronounced premenstrual syndrome ;
- high emotional lability;
- change of character for the worse: stiffness, criticality, callousness;
- sexual coldness;
- discord in relations between partners due to lack of proximity.
Abstinence in men
With men all the more difficult, by their nature, the strongest think more about sex, and physiology immediately makes itself felt excited. Most men, during the day can be excited several times. Abstinence for men is more difficult than for women. Forced sexual abstinence is very difficult to tolerate by hypersexual representatives. In the absence of a partner, men tend to resort to masturbation more often than women.
The use of abstinence for men
It is useful or not sexual deprivation for men - there is no unequivocal opinion. A slight lack of sex does not cause significant harm, but has its pluses. The use of abstinence is evident in the following cases:
- Cardiovascular diseases - in old age, frequent sexual intercourse gives a significant burden on the heart, it is not uncommon for a fatal outcome during sex from a heart attack or stroke.
- The risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases - a momentary pleasure is fraught with consequences posing a threat to health and life. Sex without obligations at parties, more than once forced repent of men.
- Careful attitude to the resources of your body. Recent studies by foreign biologists have fundamentally dispelled the misconception that abstinence is dangerous. Studying the composition of the sperm, the scientists came to the conclusion that for the organism it is a necessary substance containing lecithin, phosphorus, calcium and proteins. With frequent sexual contacts, the body loses these vital resources, as a result, the central nervous system suffers and depletes. Believe this fact or not, every man decides for himself.
- Improvement of spermatogenesis and sperm composition. A few days of abstinence before the planned conception contribute to an increase in the activity of spermatozoa, increasing the chances of fertilization. There is also an opposite opinion.
Long-term abstinence of men - consequences
Harmful abstinence for men is not an unambiguous answer, all individually, but if we consider the average indicators that draw a portrait of an active man in the prime of life and potency, and this is the vast majority of young men, then forced abstinence gives disappointing forecasts for health. The likely consequences of sexual abstinence:
- persistent decrease in sexual desire, as such after a long abstinence;
- premature ejaculation;
- development of neuroses and inferiority complex;
- fear of new acquaintances;
- nervousness and aggression;
- suppression of prostatic secretion;
- varicose veins of the scrotum;
- tumors (prostate adenoma, testicular cancer);
- impotence.
Abstinence in sport
Sexual deprivation in sport dates back to ancient times, when the military commanders noticed that soldiers who were not in a relationship showed themselves better in competitions and on the battlefield. So there was a steady opinion that the athlete before the training should concentrate on the result as much as possible. It is known that the boxer Mohammed Ali observed abstinence for up to one and a half months before the fights.
Abstinence in bodybuilding plays a significant role, although there are conflicting opinions on this score. The abstinence and growth of muscles are related to each other by the fact that, with excessive sexual activity, the level of testosterone, which affects the increase in muscle mass, falls catastrophically, in return prolactin, the female hormone, is produced. Experienced athletes know that sex is only useful after training or competition, but not before them.
How to learn to abstain?
If a person, for whatever reasons, made a decision about a temporary sexual respite (fasting, spiritual practices, parting with a loved one for the duration of a business trip), how can you less painfully survive this period and learn how to reduce the intensity of passions? It is important to remember that moderate abstinence from sexual activity is sometimes beneficial to the body.
What can help abstinence practitioners:
- focusing on spiritual growth and self-improvement;
- to develop in this period of creativity and creativity;
- practice various techniques of meditation (contemplation, dynamic meditation on Osho);
- engage in an active sport.
Myths about abstinence
Sexual abstinence is shrouded in various speculations and stereotypes. There are the following myths about abstinence:
- Lack of sex can cause the disease schizophrenia, forms a predilection for pedophilia and zoophilia. This is not true, since the basis of these manifestations often lie endogenous congenital abnormalities.
- Long abstinence in men and women can cause premature menopause. Yes, there is such a thing as male climax. It is believed that this myth was created by pharmaceutical companies for the best sale of condoms.
- Transformation of sexual energy into creative while abstaining. Part of this is true, if a person is inherently creative and obsessed with ideas, the period of minor abstinence for him passes painlessly, for everyone else, a sexual pause causes at least discomfort.