Girls by nature are timid and shy creatures. Sometimes it is difficult for them to approach the guy first, to start a conversation, to kiss first and so on. But in life it often happens that the initiative has to take in their hands and make the first steps to the fair sex, because guys also can be shy, or not suspect about the girl's feelings. But the problem looms that it is difficult for such people to maintain a conversation, and there may be awkward pauses. The girl, for example, may simply not know that you can ask the guy, or what questions you can ask him, so as not to look obtrusive, and at the same time to support the conversation.
What questions should I ask the guy?
To begin with, let's define with what questions it is necessary to ask the guy necessarily. This category includes issues that relate to the interests, preferences, plans of the guy. We will give an approximate list of topics suitable for the conversation, and you can easily expand it or adapt it for each specific case.
- Topics about the interests of the guy. If you do not know what he is addicted to, then ask him about it. And if you are already aware of this, then you can ask some nuance. For example, your boyfriend is fond of football, then you can ask him questions about: your favorite team, the rules of the game, the winners of the Champions League, judging errors, the behavior of fans and much more.
- Ask about his life rules and principles. Some questions from this area can be quite general, and even suitable for unfamiliar people. These are questions about friendship (men and women, women's friendship), about pets, about work, about plans for the near and not only the future, about how he likes to spend weekends and holidays.
- These questions are the most popular for guys, because they like to be in the center of attention, and thanks to such questions it is easier to find common points of contact, and to build a further conversation.
- And yet, do not get too involved in asking questions, otherwise the conversation will look like passing the exam. To do this, it is sufficient to rephrase the sentences. For example, you can ask: "What are you into?", And you can do this: "Please tell us about your hobbies."
Any more questions you can ask the guy
You can ask the guy about what he likes in everyday life. For example, that he likes to eat for breakfast, what music he listens to, what genre of cinema he prefers. You can safely be interested in his favorite bands, performers, actors.
A rather popular topic for conversation are childhood and adolescence. It is clear that you do not need to go into details, they will not always be relevant in the first time after your acquaintance, but about how they had a family meeting in the New Year, where they rested in the summer, whether he went to pioneer camps will always be appropriate to take an interest.
What are the best questions not to ask the guy?
On the first dates, talking about ex-girls (wives) is taboo. In a couple of months, or even years, you will certainly be able to ask the young man and such questions, but in the candy-bouquet period of this topic should be avoided. There are times when a guy suddenly starts to talk about his past relationship. You should be wary of this, because such behavior indicates either that there is still no point in those relations or that
The next taboo subject is the salary (more precisely, its size). Not all men are willing to discuss the size of their income with the girl, especially if he has some financial difficulties.
And the last slippery topic are the guy's problems. If in a conversation it becomes clear to you that a guy has, for example, problems with his superiors, then he should not try to find out what they are. Men do not like to show their weakness, and if he is caught in it, then the girl will quickly make him feel irritated than sympathy.