Do you know a neurotic sense of guilt? Almost with accuracy we can say that at least once, but you definitely experienced it. Such a feeling is difficult to confuse with any other, it often spoils the lives of people with an increased sense of responsibility. Moreover, psychology explains that the psychological sense of guilt and actual actual guilt are absolutely different things. If guilt is the source of the situation that occurred, the cause of the investigation, then the feeling of guilt is someone's or the person's imposed feeling, a condition that he is guilty, although this may not be so at all.
Where does the sense of guilt come from?
The possibility of a sense of guilt directly depends on the type and structure of the person's personality. If a person is aggressive, impulsive, and you can not get through it, then it is unlikely that he will be able to evoke feelings of guilt and shame. However, if a person is vulnerable, kind, anxious, most likely such a person will notice such feelings much more often.
There are several sources that cause such an unpleasant sensation:
Guilt connected with family
To such cases it is possible to carry, as relations between parents and children, and between spouses. It often happens that parents feel guilty, because they did not educate their child well enough, that they did not give him everything that is so necessary. Children, in turn, may think that they do not take good care of their elderly parents in their old age or have spent all their nerves in childhood, but now they regret it bitterly, but there is also the feeling of guilt for a very young child when he feels himself a nuisance, unnecessary in family.
Spouses also feel guilty no less often. Men often think that they do not earn enough to provide for their family or do not spend enough time with their relatives, because they constantly disappear at work. Women often consider themselves bad housewives, comparing themselves with other wives. Moreover, it is important to note that women are inclined more often than men to blame themselves, rather than the circumstances surrounding the crisis, etc.
Feelings of guilt after treason
The reasons for adultery can be different, but no doubt you will be haunted by remorse, guilt. It is very important to understand that there is nothing to fix - it happened and happened. The main thing is still to understand and understand the reason for such an act and you can not even tell your spouse, because this is exactly the case when the lie is done for good, for the benefit of your family.
Feeling guilty before the deceased
It also happens that people close to us die, and we are unconsciously or consciously, blaming ourselves for the cause or for no reason, for the death of this person. Maybe because they did not have time to tell him all they had to say, maybe because they did not have time to ask, or even consider themselves guilty of his physical death. However, it is worth remembering that you are not God, not some kind of almighty person, but quite normal and if you did not have a goal to kill a person - you are not at all to blame for his death. It's not up to you to decide who to leave this world before, and who later. The sense of guilt for the death of a loved one is one of the most horrible, if only because nothing can be returned exactly, and with such remorse of conscience you simply poison your soul.
Unfortunately, very often from the people around you, there is a manipulation
So, a constant sense of guilt can lead to nothing good, only to depression, dissatisfaction with oneself, illnesses and sorrows, it destroys, so get rid of that feeling and as soon as possible.