Everything begins imperceptibly. First - drinking only on holidays. Then - on the weekends. Later - once more in the middle of the week. Gradually, the consequences of "gulyas" - from broken dishes to a broken car - are also amplified. If the husband drinks, in most cases he does not recognize it, but will respond with something like: "You have not yet seen how they drink!". But how to behave to your wife in this situation is a rather difficult question, and it is better not to delay the decision.
Some statistics
It's no secret that any person who develops alcohol dependence at the initial stages does not see this as a problem. "After all, they drink everything!" - such people say. They are not able to assess the real consequences of their spree, nor realize that they have long exceeded the limits of the "norm". According to statistics, for example, in Russia there are more than 30 million drinking men - which means almost every second.
It often happens that the husband drinks and insults, and the woman still decides to fight for him to the end. Lack of experience and knowledge in this area often makes a woman choose completely ineffective methods of "helping" a person. Meanwhile, statistics report terrible figures: every year 12,000 women die from domestic violence , and in the vast majority of cases it is associated with drunkenness. That's why, if you see that the husband started drinking, just think about what to do next.
What should I do if my husband drinks?
The wife should show firmness and first of all establish boundaries: no drinking at home. It is important to take a clear, concrete position on this issue. And the first thing to do is to prove to the husband that he has addiction and problems with alcohol. For this it is necessary to perform the following actions:
- Start a calendar, in which for a month, note all the days when he drinks, the amount drunk, and the negative consequences.
- Separately write out all the unpleasant situations and losses that have happened to him because of his drinking.
- Another leaflet is dedicated to counting the costs of alcohol, related products and reimbursement of consequences.
- Somehow, shoot him disgustingly drunk on the camera, or write down the dialogue on the recorder.
When you collect enough evidence, you should approach him - necessarily sober and in a good mood - and gently say that you think he needs support. And show him all the evidence of why he can already be called alcoholics in the initial stage. Beating on this should be until he says "I'm an alcoholic." Only after he agrees to treatment, you can go to a doctor. Treatment without his consent will not do anything.
But know: after that there is no turning back. You can not keep a drop of alcohol in your house, let yourself even for holidays. One glass, one glass can spoil all the months, and even years of work and return everything to the zero point.
What should I do if my husband drinks heavily and constantly?
If you see that his "drunken self" predominates more and more in the husband, and he increasingly loses his human form after drinking, all the more difficult consequences of his drinking, and all the more aggressive behavior - think, but is there anything else to fight for?
According to sad statistics, no more than 20-30% of alcoholics are able to overcome dependence . Most re-break, and the whole life of such a family turns into short stops of sobriety among the drunkenness of drunkenness. Do you want to live in such a family? Do not forget that the stress of the presence of an alcoholic at home always negatively affects the child's psyche. In some cases, it's easier to leave right away, rather than trying to save someone who does not fight for himself. Never forget about this option.