Black band in life

Many people, barely seeing the trouble, immediately begin to think that there has come a black streak. After this, everything happens as in the unhappy saying "trouble does not come alone", and here the person really turns out to be on some obstacle course, to run along which there is already no strength.

How to determine what you have - a black streak in life?

Many women tend to exaggerate the situation, which is why it is worth distinguishing real black stripes from a couple of troubles that you simply took too much to heart. In order not to confuse the concepts, determine in which of the areas of life you have problems:

• personal life;
• relationships with friends;
• relations with relatives;
• career;
• finance;
• health;
• appearance;

If all your troubles are in one or two zones, then this is not even a black band, but, so, the little things of life. But if the problems concern three or more spheres of life (you can highlight a few more that are relevant to you), then it is worth thinking about how to get rid of the black strip.

Why did the black band come?

While some claim that our whole life is a strip of white, a strip of black, others believe that we are given some trouble for something or something. According to this theory, the burden of trouble is given to us so that we pass this test with dignity, do not despair, do not fall into despair, do not look for the guilty and do not blame ourselves, but bravely overcome it.

A black bar can tell you that somewhere in life you have not gone there. For example, if you can not find a job for a long time, it can be a bell that you are trying to get yourself out of your sphere or you should be doing business at all.

Check if you have any beliefs that prevent you from leaving the black band. Some girls repeat: "I have a stupid character (appearance), who do I need?". And then it turns out that she has problems in her personal life, and then her belief is guilty that she is unworthy of happiness. In addition, many features of character and appearance can be adjusted, rather than consider that because of them one will have to be alone. When you constantly repeat the same thought, it becomes your conviction and begins to influence your life.

What should I do if I have a black streak?

Analyze the situation. It is most convenient to take a piece of paper and write everything on it. If life is a strip of white, the band is black, then you need to help yourself quickly to the next, more pleasant zone.

So, identify your main problems. The best way is to head them with several bars so that it would be more convenient to continue the analysis. For example, you have significantly recovered (1), lost your job (2) and you lost a parakeet (3). Thus, we narrowed the range of problems, and now you are not "all bad", but there are three specific troubles.

Now we need to determine whether we can fight them. Excess weight is easy to remove, for this it is enough to pull yourself together and not give up the sweet and fat, and if you add sports, there will be no problems at all. Here, no difficulties, if you keep yourself in hand, you can successfully lose weight by 4-5 kg ​​per month. The second problem also has a solution: you need to write a good resume and send it to all companies that interest you, or you can walk in person. If money is needed urgently, pay attention to the freelance exchanges on the Internet, since on remote work you can earn well without leaving home. The third problem requires releasing the situation. You will not return the pet in any way, even if you shed a liter of tears. So wish the pet happiness in the best of the worlds and do not think about it every day.

After that, you need to let yourself relax, take a bath and realize that you have the key to solving all your problems. Believe in the best, ignore the thoughts of the bad - and life will improve!