Nothing lasts forever under the moon, and our feelings are no exception. Over time, passion becomes a habit, and tenderness into fatigue. And one day, waking up in the morning, a woman in confusion understands that she does not love her husband. How to be in that case - to look for a way to love your husband again or to file a divorce application?
"I do not know if I love my husband .."
What if I suddenly caught myself thinking "I do not like my husband anymore"? Try to understand whether this is a temporary cooling of feelings on your part and there is a chance to return everything or your husband became simply disgusting - here, no matter how hard you try, you will hardly be able to love him again. After all, it is impossible to force a wife to love her husband. But to regain feelings, the former passion is worth trying.
And then, often we think that love has passed, whereas it simply acquired a different character. After all, it is impossible to constantly burn out of passion and fly to the heights of bliss simply from being next to it - no heart can sustain such a load. That's why the feelings have all but calmed down, but this person is still dear to you, is not it?
How to re-love a husband?
As mentioned above, you can love your own husband again only if there is no categorical rejection of that person, and, of course, if you yourself want that.
- Remember how it all began. Your first meeting and your favorite place for walking. Perhaps in order to wake up the asleep feelings you need to go back to the "places of military glory" - kiss on the benches, as it was in your first meetings, sit in the cafe where the first date took place, go to rest where you spent a honeymoon .
- For a long time that you were together, you have already become accustomed to your husband, and some of his character traits may even be fed up. But are you sure that you know your husband? Surely, you did not pay attention to some features of his character, and some did not even suspect about it. Try to look at it in a new way, look for new sides and facets of this person that lives with you under one roof. Maybe something new that you open in it will make the feelings flare up with renewed vigor.
- Often at the beginning of the relationship, some of the faults of the husband are not seen by us or are considered to be nice features of him, but over time he is beginning to terribly annoy. What kind of love can you say if you are in a boiling kettle? Try to talk on this subject with your husband, tell me how important it is for your flaws to disappear. Just remember, it will be hard to refuse old habits, so do not expose ultimatums and do not make scandals. Talk to him calmly, go for reciprocal concessions, it is likely that his own some of your habits are annoying.
- Sometimes even the closest people get tired of each other, and infuriate not some actions, but only the presence of another person. In this case, you can help a little parting. No, it's not about the reception that is so often shown in American films "dear, let's live separately for a while".
Such words usually speak, trying to hide some time the rupture before associates, and it is still early for you. It's enough just to relax from each other, for example, to go on vacation, but not together, but separately. Often such a short separation works wonders - after returning, the couple fall in love with each other with renewed vigor.
But it is worth remembering that attempts to rouse fading feelings will be effective only if these same feelings are still there. But if you have nothing to revive, then you should not try, only the forces and time will be wasted.