How to respond to rudeness?

Agree, we live in a developed civilized society, in which, ideally, everything should be built on mutual respect. Then, and most calmly, and others do not hurt. But, despite this, the risk of encountering a man who does not need an excuse to show his aggression and spoil your mood is great enough. Let's look at how you can resist rudeness while maintaining a worthy position.

How correctly to react to rudeness?

Of course, it's best not to notice it and try to leave the dangerous situation as soon as possible. The main goal of a boor is to get you out of emotional balance and see how you will cope with it. Do not give him such joy. For example, it's not at all necessary to argue with a lady who made an unflattering remark about the length of your skirt. If you pretend that you have not heard and pass by with your head held high, then the inconvenience, most likely, she will experience.

But it is not always possible to get out of the situation, sometimes you find yourself face to face with a boor for a while and are compelled to listen to his provocations. Here are a couple of tips on how to behave in order to protect yourself from rudeness.

1. Do not take all the words of your opponent into your account. Believe me, everything that the boor says is not connected with you at all. Even if the provocations are specific, the same could be heard by any person who happened to be in your place.
2. Do not go down to the level of a boor, do not try to rude in response. You are an intelligent person, this behavior is not peculiar to you, and he always behaves like that. If you get involved in a dispute, then the boor gets a victory and a sense of satisfaction, and you only resentment and shame for what you have said.

How beautiful is the answer to rudeness?

Fighting with rudeness is successful only in one case - if you do not lose self-control. And the aggressor expects this from you. But if the boor sees that his words do not have any effect on you, it will knock him out of the rut, he will lose control over the situation. Now it's very simple to cope with it - enough to surprise or even discourage by an unexpected action or phrase that you can think of in advance.

Also, for a successful confrontation, it is important to imagine the reasons for the aggressive behavior of the opponent. They may differ depending on the situation in which you are confronted with rudeness.

Rudeness at work. If you are rude to a colleague, this can be compared with the usual rudeness and you need to fight it also. But when the bosses are on the offensive, any answer is fraught with consequences. If you deserve such a debriefing - this is one thing, then you should listen and move on to a constructive discussion. If, in your opinion, this happens from scratch, try to carefully identify with the authorities the reasons for such an attitude. Maybe you became a victim of office intrigue, or something you do not quite understand.

Rudeness in transport, as a rule, is the most unconstructive. Maybe you stepped on someone's foot, but you do not have to listen to his claims after they apologized. And it happens so - you stepped on your foot and you were cursed. A real expanse for brawlers. Try to imagine how life develops in a person, if he absolutely can not control himself. A sympathetic glance will definitely puzzle the opponent.

Household rudeness. You can also be ruffled in a shop, in a queue for a doctor and in any state institution. In the latter case, it is most dangerous not to prepare for the meeting. Try to collect information in advance on the issue that you need to solve, then nobody will be able to take advantage of your ignorance.

Rudeness in the family, perhaps, affects the most, because close people know exactly how you can be offended and in the fuse can take advantage of this. If you respond in the same spirit, then all probably will end in a scandal. Much more effective to wonder where a man has so much aggression, perhaps, he was not very sweet today and he can not cope with it on his own. Try to find the strength not to be offended by an expensive person, but to support him and help calm down, and then discuss everything in a calm conversation. So you can keep a favorable atmosphere in the family and show the person that you really appreciate it.

Intelligent rudeness. On the one hand, it's an art to offend a person so finely that he does not even notice, but on the other hand, it does not change the very nature of this phenomenon. If you want to adequately respond to polite rudeness, then it needs to be even thinner and more delicate.