As you know, only 20% of the information we get verbally (verbally), the remaining 80% - from non-verbal sources, through distance in conversation, behavior and even clothing and ornaments. All of the above gives us a reliable picture of reality. That is, we understand that when a person greets us with affection, but with his arms crossed, then in fact - he moves away from us and says: "I'm not comfortable, not comfortable." Know, facial expressions and gestures give us signs at a subconscious level, they are much more truthful than brain-deliberated, planned words.
Psychology - what do gestures mean?
"I thought about it"
Decipher this gesture is quite simple. A person who is in his thinking, usually absent in real life. Therefore, he can hold his hand near his temple, touch his head, scratch his head, lean on his arm. At this time, he works his head, and tries to give you a sign about it.
"I'm interested"
The person you are interested in will try to act as little as possible during the conversation. For example, as an interesting lesson, when the interested instructor's children have dead silence in the audience. Your interlocutor is inclined to you, trying not to miss not one of your words, does not interrupt you and listens attentively, eye contact is always present. The listener does not follow his facial expressions, so his eyes or mouth can be opened.
"I respect you"
Psychology of gestures of men. A person who respects you, greets you by the hand tightly, if possible, for a long time, with your hand straight and extended. He thus creates to you the most comfortable conditions for handshaking with him. A man gives a woman a hand when leaving public transport. This gesture carries in itself not only a formal character, when a man looks at you and tries to catch your pen.
"I am prone to a trusting relationship"
Psychology of gestures and facial expressions of man notes that the first sign of a close, trusting relationship is a short, insignificant distance between you and your interlocutor. Based on distance, you can judge how much you trust, and allows you to step on your personal space and enter the comfort zone . To such attributes still concern: not the crossed arms or hand and legs or foots; The open palms are directed towards the sky; openness of a person, sincerity, a smile, loud and unrestrained laughter; courage to touch you at the first meeting, and most importantly - the person you sympathize with, involuntarily copies you, your gestures and habits.
"I'm defending myself"
There are many variants of gestures and postures, the psychology of which is aimed at protection, in men, from covering the inguinal area in time standing position, to crossing arms and building a wall between you (in a deliberate introduction of a third person). Ways can be all kinds of: using a handkerchief, doing manipulation with the nose and ears, hiding ears under the hat or hair, hands in pockets, careful not to touch the interlocutor, closing the eyes with your hand, always dressed
The psychology of women's gestures is an amazing thing! Having mastered it, the girl will be much easier to accurately let the man know that she is located to a closer contact.
Female gestures and their significance in psychology
- play a disused toe, the man will understand that you want to achieve it;
- shaking hair - you need attention;
- shoot with your eyes - hint at acquaintance;
- throw a look from under the raised shoulder - you want intimacy and tenderness;
- one leg is thrown over the other or alternately changes - a woman desires sexual contact and an offensive from a man;
- a very sexy and seductive gesture - a slightly opened mouth, painted with sponge a gentle glitter or juicy lipstick (preferably a fruit pleasant aroma).