Reasons for not wanting to go to school
Of course, for each age group, the reasons may differ, but in general, the main ones are:
- fear of unknown events - this is typical of first-graders, especially those who did not attend kindergarten, they are afraid that they will have to be without a mother, that there will be many strangers around;
- negative memories and experience usually lead to the fact that the primary school student says "I do not want to go to school", because they have some negative memories of the previous class or preparation for school, kindergarten, for example, some conflict with their peers , learning difficulties;
- uncertainty in themselves - is typical for any age, but more often for first-graders who are afraid that they will not be friends with classmates;
- lack of understanding of the meaning of training, lack of interest - typical of adolescents who at the moment have absolutely different values in life and study at school seems to them a waste of time;
- problems in the family, for example, the divorce of parents , some scandals and quarrels can cause the child does not want to go to school, and this is typical for all age groups;
- conflicts with classmates , teachers, unrequited love are typical reasons for high school students.
Solution
When a child says: "I do not want to go to school" - then this is a problem, and finding out the reason, we need to start solving it. There are basic recommendations:
- more to communicate with the child, regardless of his age, tell him about his school years, his experience, but necessarily in all stories there must be a happy ending;
- try to be objective in assessing problems, conflicts;
- deserves to cheer and praise;
- do not intimidate;
- to establish close relations, to talk heart to heart;
- learn to resolve conflict situations.
Parents of first-graders need to take care of the process of adaptation to the school was as easy as possible. It is the difficulties in this period that can explain why children do not want to learn. It is necessary to observe the child, listen carefully to what is bothering him. Sometimes it will make sense to consult a psychologist for help.