Children's society is cruel. If adults often restrain their feelings or show them indirectly, then the children are straightforward and act on impulse. If any child in the children's team is different in appearance, has a characteristic surname or any other characteristics, he is often doomed to misappropriating him with an unpleasant nickname and listening to nasty things about himself.
Parents and sometimes teachers are advised not to pay attention, believing that indifference on the part of the offended, will gradually make the offenders silent. But, honestly on the heart, we admit, to remain indifferent to a child in such a situation is not easy! Clear and secret tears, experiences, conflicts begin. There are times when the situation leads to a real tragedy. The problem, in fact, is difficult, and there are no universal recommendations.
It is undesirable to interfere directly in the conflict between children. An exception can only be if the child of preschool age is subjected to peer persecution. In schoolchildren, intercession from the elders will cause a new outburst of dislike, and the "slander" may remain in complete isolation. That is, the interference of adults will lead to deterioration and so difficult situation of the child.
How to help the child cope?
Options for action if the child is subjected to ridicule and insults:
- It is necessary to analyze what the pejorations of peers are associated with. If the reason is in the features of the exterior, think about how to help the child. One should also offer some restrictions on eating and playing sports , for a thin and weak boy, also go out to the sports section, the child wears glasses - buy him this attribute in a fashionable beautiful frame or buy lenses, a girl too high can be written to a model school, P.
- If a child is teased for dressing, help him pick up a modest, but quite appropriate child's fashion wardrobe.
- Sometimes unpleasant nicknames are associated with the perception of a name. It's not easy for boys with the names Stas, Edik, Sergei, who are called into rhyme, so they need to be taught to be presented differently: Stanislav, Eduard, Seryozha.
- Often a child is called for being well-educated. It is important to convince your child to behave rationally: not to show arrogance, not to be an upstart, and to help classmates as necessary.
- It happens that a child is teased for his manner of acting. Closed, non-contact is called "quiet", too quick-tempered, pugnacious - they give the nickname "crazy", etc. Parents should teach their children the right communication with their peers, introduce methods of overcoming conflict situations, educate a common culture of behavior.
- It is necessary to develop self-control skills in the child, to teach how to act in case if you hurt his personality: make an indifferent person, move away from the abusers, count to 10, etc.
- It is important that the child has adequate self-esteem formed, for which he should be praised for his personal achievements. If there are abilities in some area, for their development and self-realization, it is desirable to write a girl or boy in the appropriate circle, then his skills will be appreciated by others.
- It is necessary to bring the child examples from his own life or biographies of famous personalities about how brutal peer pressure was overcome (many well-known people recall it).
- Never cheat a child, do anything without his knowledge. Even if you are 100% sure that you are doing the right thing! Otherwise, the son or daughter will not trust you, and can hide very unpleasant things that happen to them.
- Not bad, if the child can parry, showing wit. Unfortunately, this advice can not be used by everyone - here
some abilities are needed. - You can not isolate your child from communicating with peers. A small member of the family has the right to sometimes invite his friends to the house to play, watch a movie, etc.
- If the situation is too complicated and there is practically no way out of it, decide to transfer the child to another school (optimally located in the neighboring district). Sadly, there are children's groups with a sharply negative focus, run by rude and cruel leaders.
Parents who are not indifferent can always help their child, if they do not consider child problems as trifles and try to find reasonable solutions to the situation.