The first manifestations of female envy are already in childhood. Someone's dress is more beautiful, someone gave new sandals to someone. Often mothers themselves teach their daughters to compare themselves with others - this message is laid down in phrases such as "You have the most-most!". The girl is approved for being better than others. It is quite logical that the little ones start to look at their girlfriends and compare. That's why it turns out that girlfriends envy one another: after all, if a girlfriend has something better, it seems to make me worse! The habit of comparing and striving to get yourself the same and even better is fixed in character and grows with the girls.
What do friends envy?
Ironically, grown women can also envy dresses and sandals. And also career successes, a resort for recreation, a car brand, a man. Envy can be to children and their successes, to features of appearance or character ... If the person has grown, and own system of value has not got, to it it is simply easier to be guided in the world, wishing to jump about another's achievements.
How to understand that a girlfriend is jealous?
There is no single way how to find out that a girlfriend is jealous. But there are effective tips. The fact is that in different people envy manifests itself in different ways, and psychologists point to these signs in behavior:
- Doubtful praise from her: "Here you are good! Lucky some! "
- A friend spoils the mood when you share your success with it. Perhaps she will stop supporting the conversation or try to translate it into another direction.
- Provocative behavior in the presence of someone else, except for the two of you. A friend seems to be trying to belittle you in the eyes of others, although it can be presented as a joke.
- Feeling of depression, guilt, anxiety after talking to a friend. In this way, your subconscious reacts to the most insignificant manifestations of insincerity and envy.
It will be hard to show direct evidence of envy. And is it necessary?
What if the girlfriend is jealous?
Even if you do not have full confidence precisely in the envious feelings of a friend, but there is a sediment, there is a persistent suspicion - this is already an occasion for change. You can start with increasing the distance between you: meet less often, and do not make telephone conversations extensive and confidential. Use this pause in communication in order to understand your own feelings. Perhaps you will notice that without a girlfriend the feeling of guilt decreases, and life becomes freer. In any case, think about this. In a relationship involved in envy, two people participate. Are you sure that you are not flattered by someone else's envy? If so, there is only one way out: the rejection of a feigned friendship.