Reasons for not wanting to learn from adolescents
Many parents raising teenagers are wondering why they do not want to learn. The reasons for this attitude to the school can be many, some of which we now consider:
1. A teenager does not want to study, because he does not see the point . Stories that if you do not study well, you will not achieve anything in life, no results will be given. Modern adolescents are aware of the injustice of reality and know well the examples of the fact that one can "get along well" without studying.
Tip: In this case, you need to show as often as possible on available examples that knowledge and education make life more interesting and interesting, expanding the boundaries and opening new horizons.
2. A teenager does not want to learn because he is not interested . Some fairly talented or gifted children miss the monotonous and uninteresting lessons in general schools. Sometimes it is difficult for the teacher to find an individual approach to each student from the class, and therefore the "emphasis" is on the average level, depriving the attention of "special" children. Sometimes in such a situation a child who aspires to ask many questions and somehow stands out from the masses is made a "black sheep", which even more sets him up against the school.
Tip: For a gifted child, you need to create optimal conditions for its development: change the regular school to a specialized one, where it will be fully loaded. Talk with the teacher about raising the motivation - participation in the olympiads, school quizzes. Think about the question, not how to force a teenager to learn, but how to make it so that he himself would happily pursue knowledge.
3. A teenager does not want to study because of conflicts at school . Conflict can arise for many reasons: transition to a new school, an unsuccessful attempt to win leadership, contradictions with the teacher.
Advice: talk to the child "heart to heart", never scold him for his confessions (even if he is wrong), try to understand his feelings and actions. When talking with a child, do not give him any recommendations and advice on what to do, because in the situation of clarifying the relationship, we act as we feel. Therefore, try to talk with the child about his feelings. Actions can be right and wrong, and feelings are reality and experiences. The main thing is to give the child support, so that he has the strength to deal with the conflict on his own. You can share an example of your childish difficulties, this will help the teenager feel that he is not alone in his problem.
How to motivate a teenager to study?
To increase the motivation of a teenager for learning, parents need to follow the rules:
- never compare your child with peers who achieve greater success, especially if one of your classmates causes antipathy in your son / daughter;
- never scold a school and teachers in the presence of a teenager, because in this way you suppress authority and only
reinforce unwillingness to learn; - focus on the good deeds of the teenager, praise him and point out the shortcomings less;
- Do not tell a teenager negative examples about it, then maybe if he / she is bad at learning - better support the teenager and make optimistic plans together;
- do not press on the teenager, causing him a sense of guilt and pity - this is a direct way to being withdrawn, better tell positive examples of who thanks to the school has achieved a lot in life.
Summarizing all of the above, we can conclude that if a teenager does not want to learn, the first thing to do is find out the reason for this behavior. Your support and love will help the child to rethink the situation and make the right decision.