Unfortunately, very often you can hear complaints from women: "my husband beat me," "raised his hand," and the like. Indeed, sometimes male aggression finds no way out, and it comes to the fact that a man begins to beat his wife or child, using their weakness and turning into a domestic monster.
However, this is just the case when a woman needs to show the resilience of her character and show strength, otherwise the beating will have to endure for a very long time.
What if my husband beats his wife?
If the husband is beaten, the best option is to drop him. If you have common children, and you do not want to leave a domestic torturer because of this, then think: will it be better for kids to see constant scenes of violence and a battered mother than to live without a father? The child's psyche is very fragile, so if you do not want to raise children in fear, then it's best to leave.
If there is no way out, then you need to fight. You can not change cruel people, especially since such a man has mental disabilities (which must be treated), and therefore any attempts at persuasion, affectionate attitude, fulfillment of his demands will not lead to the desired result.
Here are some tips that can help ease the situation:
- it is naive to believe that you will be able to fight with him on an equal footing, but it will not hurt to enroll in self-defense courses;
- also you must be resistant to provocation: if it is clear that the husband is "starting", leave the house for a while or do not react to them. Pretend not to notice it, and let it do what it wants;
- it is useful to organize a room without glass doors and hang a lock on it from the inside so that if the husband starts attacking, you could hide from him. It is desirable to keep water there and some means of communication, which it can not cut off;
- yet his actions need to be publicized: contact the local media, usually journalists are looking for vivid life situations, so it is unlikely to refuse publication. It is advisable to publish not only the name, but also a photograph, so that his actions are despised by all those with whom he is familiar. Maybe he is not afraid of you, but he can be frightened by the situation of an outcast. If you dare not take this step, talk with your relatives, let them join in on you;
- and you can also try to give him sedatives (if he is not an alcoholic who is in a constant drinking-bout);
- if the husband beats his pregnant wife, then it is necessary to leave him under any circumstances, tk. this is an extreme manifestation of cruelty and a sign of lack of morality, and most likely, he is even capable of killing. Nothing should stop a woman from breaking up with this man.
Why does the husband beat his wife?
For some women this is a mystery: why the husband beats his wife, because he chose her, married and probably loves. For others, the answer is obvious, and he questions the intellectual, moral and other characteristics of such a man.
Most often, men beat their wives because they think it's right: they say that they show their strength, "punish" their spouse for wrong deeds, or simply satisfy their need to hurt.
However, whatever reasons such a husband called, they are all lies, hardly any of them understands the real factors of such behavior: bad education, boundless complexes and personal degradation.
Step-by-step instruction: what to do if a husband just beat him?
- We must try to escape from it. Nobody can promise, he calmed down, or it's a respite before the second "round".
- If you could not get out, lock yourself in the room with the phone and call the police, let them know that you can be killed (if the husband is really furious). In any case, call law enforcement: their duty is to protect the weak and defenseless against cruelty, so they will help you, and the husband will think next time whether to start a "concert".
- If the husband is badly beaten (there is at least one scratch or bruise) -
also call an ambulance: doctors will help to calm the nervous system of an inadequate husband, and you are examined.
The main thing is do not be afraid to harm this cruel person (and suddenly, because of the police call, the authorities will find out that the husband is fighting and will fire him): now he was lucky, he broke anger on a weak woman who can not answer, but imagine if next was a man a couple of times stronger than him, what would become of this so-called husband? Therefore, you better teach him his normal behavior, and show that there is no impunity. Do not value relationships with such a person, and look for the opportunity to break them. All measures against violence can only be a temporary effect.