You see only the bad, you think that people just think how to hit you harder, do you consider yourself incapable of anything? Congratulations, you have increased anxiety and excessive suspiciousness. Do you know how to get rid of them? If yes, what are you waiting for, these qualities are poisoning your life! And, if not, then the information how to overcome the suspiciousness, you will come in handy.
Causes of excessive suspiciousness
How to overcome suspiciousness? First you need to find out "where the legs grow", this quality is not inherent. Most psychologists identify two causes of suspiciousness. First - improper education, parents put before the child such tasks that he can not do, always make him guilty, even if it is not, point to failure, forgetting to praise. As a result, the person grew suspicious, insecure and self-esteemed with low self-esteem. The second reason is the negative experience of a person - someone offended him, betrayed him and now he does not believe anyone, sees only bad people in people and considers himself a failure.
How to get rid of suspiciousness - the first attempt
You can fight with suspicion by different methods. Here's the first way how to deal with suspiciousness.
It is necessary to soberly assess all situations when you feel offended. Look, when you really wanted to hurt, and when you yourself have thought up your own grievances. The last cases are more, right? In fact, people do not want you to be evil, but they are simply too busy with their problems to plot you.
Remember that you are a strong person, and no one can inflict harm on you, unless you yourself want to. If you are unhappy with the conversation with someone, tell about it, do not hold resentment in yourself.
How to overcome suspiciousness - the second way
If the reflections do not lead to anything, then probably, suspiciousness has become your habit. Then in one fell swoop it will not be easy, so we will take small steps towards the goal.
- Appreciate the positive sides, do not go in cycles on the bad sides, as many of them them are thought up.
- Develop your positive aspects, especially those that helped you in the past to cope with problem situations.
- Trust your friends, do not hesitate to share your fears with them. Good friends will help you.
- Do not dare to talk or think badly about yourself, even in a joke. If you constantly call yourself an unfortunate loser, then you will subconsciously strive for this state.
- Change some of your habits, change your style of clothes. Minor changes can bring about a deeper change, which is what we are trying to achieve.
- Keep a diary and write down all your problems that have appeared because of suspiciousness. And also indicate what you felt while doing this. Records will help you remember the situation and will not be lost in such cases.
- Laugh at your fears, because many of them are really funny. Write down your fears on the sheets, and then make fun of them. For example, you wrote "I'm afraid to talk with people." Now joke on this "Well, yes, right, people are so scary, immediately bite rush."
- Draw your anxieties, preferably ridiculous and ridiculous. Leave them in a conspicuous place to periodically remind yourself how your fears really look.
- Try the treatment of aesthetic aromatherapy. A couple of drops of essential oil of vanilla or rosemary, applied on a handkerchief, can help overcome shyness and shyness.
- Model the situation you are so afraid of, imagine with all the details that will be. Only the end of it, imagine yourself necessarily happy.
- Look for a hobby, an interesting lesson will simply drive out bad thoughts from your mind.
- Use auto-training, repeat yourself every day
only positive settings. - Most often bad thoughts visit us in the evening, prevent sleep, and a bad dream only aggravates the condition. That with you so did not occur, think before going to bed about the good, dream, fantasize.
If you, no matter how hard you try, get rid of suspiciousness does not come out, do not give up, contact a specialist. The psychologist will help to find the origins of your problem and tell you how to treat your suspiciousness. The result will surely please you - happiness and pacification can not but rejoice.