It's no secret that in any collective, be it a school class, or a group of students, there will always be those people who enjoy universal love and popularity, and those who do not belong to this "caste of favorites." But, what kind of representative of the beautiful half of humanity does not want to know how to become a cool girl, be attractive to the guys and have many friends. In order for a dream to come true, you should know only a few rules and work a little on yourself.
How to become a cool girl?
So, the first thing to do is look at yourself from the outside. Just need to highlight their strengths and weaknesses. The main thing is do not make a common mistake, do not go to extremes, do not over-praise yourself, but do not strongly persist in the opinion that there is nothing attractive in you.
You can make a list with your pluses and minuses, then to analyze everything and try to objectively look at yourself from the outside.
When analyzing it is necessary to identify several components, one should separately consider the advantages and disadvantages of appearance, education, ability to behave and traits of one's character . This is the first step with which you can become a cool girl, and get new friends and fans, thanks to self-confidence and correct self-esteem.
After the lists of merits and shortcomings will be compiled, we need to highlight what needs to be changed in the first place. For example, if a girl is embarrassed to communicate with people because of an "imperfect" figure, then one must simultaneously learn how to choose the "right" clothing, and play sports, and read literature on the art of communication and overcoming embarrassment in the company. Persistence and work, that's what will help you become a cool girl in school, and gain confidence in your abilities. It will not be easy on this path, it is necessary to tune in to the fact that it will take a long and hard work.
How to become the coolest girl?
When the girl has already become engaged in herself, it is necessary to proceed to the next step, we must begin to communicate with people. Look around and you will realize that those people who are able to be interesting interlocutors usually enjoy popularity, can empathize with people, share their interests. If a person does not know how to do this, then how beautiful he is, to become the coolest, whatever one may say, will not work.
In order to become a pleasant interlocutor, you should remember and learn how to apply several rules.
- Be able to listen to people. And it is not just about not interrupting the interlocutor , it is necessary to ask questions to a person, with a lively, not affected interest, to listen to his news and experiences.
- Find out what topics are interesting to your friends and try to learn them. There is nothing worse than when the interlocutor does not like to listen and talk about some things that people really care about. Therefore, for live communication it will be necessary to study
topics that interest your friends. - Learn to overcome the constraint yourself and tell something about yourself and your interests. Remember the "golden" rule of communication - 30% of the conversation should be told about yourself, 70% of the time to listen to the interlocutor.
Be sure to read the literature on the topic of practical psychology, for example, you can start with the same Dale Carnegie. There in detail it is described, what receptions are used for maintenance of interest of the interlocutor, how to learn to ask questions and like people. The main thing, remember that no book can help you until you overcome yourself and begin to apply the knowledge gained in practice.