"Disturbing thoughts create big things in small things"
Swedish proverb
Excitement is one of those feelings that we most often try to hide. Is this a good thing, another question. Let's find out what signs give you away when you try to hide your experiences, and how to determine what the other person is worried about.
Obvious signs that a person is worried
Sometimes gestures, movements and speech give a person with a head - you can immediately see that he is very worried:
- trembling in his voice, confused speech and even stammering. It's not difficult to understand that when a person worries, he does everything to cope with himself. But very often the voice gives excitement;
- trembling in the knees, fingers or even the whole body. The trembling of the limbs is the result of the release of "stress hormones" into the body, the initial purpose of which is to prepare the body for physical activity (protection) and to strengthen muscle activity. From this overstrain, the muscles involuntarily begin to tremble;
- walking back and forth. Excitement often causes a person to jump up and down randomly around the room, and explaining this is all the same "stress hormones". Most often it looks like uncontrolled walking back and forth. Sometimes a person stops and, trying to cope with himself, claws his hands, for example, in the back of the chair;
- a glancing look. If the interlocutor carefully tries to avoid your view, this does not necessarily mean that he is lying. Often a glancing look indicates that a person is worried when he talks to you.
Unclear signs that a person is worried
Sometimes we can keep emotions under control. But the experienced eye will still determine the excitement by some signs. For example:
- reservations and forgetting the previous phrases. Trying to hide excitement, we very often lose the thread of conversation and sometimes do not remember not that the topic, but the thought started;
- when a person is very worried, often he unconsciously pulls some objects. Whoever turns a pen in his hands, someone winds a lock of hair on a finger, someone scratches his nose. Many people, worrying, start gnawing their nails. If the interlocutor furiously bites his fingers - this is also uncontrollable excitement;
- some start to drum their fingers on the table. This carefree gesture is fake and gives the excitement of the interlocutor;
- if a glass with water, a cup of tea or a glass of wine is before the interlocutor, observe how the person drinks. In a relaxed state, most likely, the cup will be emptied slowly. Excitement makes us drink often and in small sips, or, on the contrary, a volley, as we dry out in the throat;
- Unblinking eyes are also a sign of experience. Anyway, this look is not relaxed, not convincing, but as if detached, but at the same time extremely tense;
- frequent smoking. Even those who rarely hold a cigarette (indulges) in moments of experience are increasingly drawn to the pack. Smoking helps to hide excitement, more precisely, its other signs. Watch how a person smokes to understand that he is worried. For example, if the lighter does not work right away, it can throw out its emotions, focusing attention on this moment. Greedy, frequent smoking is also evidence of an attempt to cope with emotional experiences;
- frequent changes of mood, abrupt, unreasonable laughter. There is a well-founded explanation of why a person laughs when worried. This is a reflex contraction of the muscles, which all expresses in different ways (more often in the form of tremors). Besides, laughter is a protective reaction of the body to stress;
- contemptuous indifference. Trying to hide the excitement, we can go to the other extreme - become indifferent and slightly ironic;
- aggression. A person is aggressive if he believes that he is in danger, and, therefore, worried.