It is so important to realize that your interlocutor behaves with you in the same way as without your presence, and although you can often undoubtedly conclude that you are a two-faced hypocrite, it happens that in the life come across and skilled manipulators. With a sigh of relief and a sense of satisfaction, you will give him everything that you have, and only after parting with him, you will realize that you have become a victim of a professional.
There are a lot of tricks how to determine the character of a person. Do not neglect them for your own good.
We verify the behavior of "before" and "after"
If you have an important meeting, make sure the sincerity of your interlocutor. Come 15 minutes ahead of him, find a shelter from which you will not be noticed and watch. The first point how to determine the type of a person's character is to observe the gait:
- free and domineering - the person's goal is to come in time for a meeting, he is not distracted by the surrounding stimuli, is able to take responsibility for his actions and promises;
- uniform, but the person turns around all the time - these people always look after their shadow, which shows their absent-mindedness;
- slow, carefree, the head is lowered - the person, most likely, has reflected on something, or feels badly;
- a sharp gait, constant shudders from the slightest noise - such a person seeks support in the views of others, he is stressed and very tense.
When your subject is in place, use the second step, how you can determine the character of a person - a handshake:
- sluggish - either the person is tired, or if you are several at the meeting, and you shook hands in the last place, your attention is neglected and does not consider you significant;
- breaks fingers and digs into the hand
- this is a sign of confrontation, a person shows his lack of confidence in you; - the second hand puts you on your shoulder - either the manipulator or the person before you evaluates you, just like you do it (in any case, communication will be interesting);
- he squeezes your palm with both hands - wait for either a request or an important message.
Here are just two points on which you can foresee the further development of relations. Next, you should compare the behavior of a person in a conversation with what you noted for yourself during the preliminary observation.