In childhood, adults learn their child to help around the house, improve themselves and learn well. One is given easily, others go in shorter steps, but ultimately justify the expectations of the parents. There is also a category of children who are good at everything, but for unknown reasons they do not want to spend time with benefit. It is clear that each of us sometimes wants to be a bit too lazy and spend time on the couch. But when a child constantly shirks from work and does not want to learn lessons , parents begin to "beat the bells".
Looking for the root cause
Everything has its beginning and the laziness of your crumbs has also taken root for a reason. Children are initially diligent and actively help adults. So before you scold and punish your child, try to understand the root cause of this behavior.
- Often children do not want to do anything because of a lack of motivation. If a child has to do something simply because it needs to be done, he will certainly be shy. Sometimes children look at their parents and knowingly do not want to accept a behavior pattern when they have to do what they have to do. Your task is to interest the crumb with the process itself and inspire you to work. If you want to be a big boss and sit in a leather chair - learn to think and work, if you want that doll - get the other toys in order.
- Fear of failure. Even adults and quite successful people often use the phrase "if it works," "I'm not sure, but I'll try." Thus, we prepare the ground for failure in advance, so that later we can refer to the fact that everything was initially in question. Children do the same. They are looking for ways to retreat, so as not to get upset. But they choose a different form: laziness as protection against bad health, fatigue. The child feels that a certain occupation takes away his strength, and there comes a syndrome of laziness. In a house where parents constantly live in a rhythm of overload and give many tasks to a child, the latter will be lazy without a break. But in this case, laziness acquires shades of apathy and depression.
- There is also a reverse scenario, when mother and grandmothers shake too much. The result will not be long in coming. If the kid has lived in this mode for several years, then retrain it immediately does not work. You will have to spend as much time to get used to another model of behavior. As a rule, the problem pops up to the beginning of schooling.
- A dangerous variant of the behavior of parents when a child is trying to make an adult ahead of time. Deficiency of games and movements in the life of crumbs leads to a protective reaction in the form of laziness.
How will we solve the problem?
Strangely enough, but the first thing will have to work on yourself. Do not take care of an over-sized baby and give him the opportunity to prove himself. Do not finish the business started by him to the end yourself. The child should get used to the fact that everything he has begun he must finish and be responsible for this.
Do not load your child all the time. When the load does not give way to a full rest, the body acts as follows: it becomes ill and thus gives an opportunity to relax. Let's spend at least one day a week as much as the child wants.
Have you ever thought that a child is very comfortable to be lazy? He recognizes this and uses it as a shield: the surrounding will accept this as a given, and the condemnation simply needs to be ignored. And it happens that it's easier to pretend to be lazy than to go to school and solve there problems with peers or to correct a deuce.
The task of the parent is to recognize where the legs grow from and learn how to look for ways to solve the problem. You must be resourceful and constantly help your child overcome the reluctance to do anything, encourage his successes in every possible way and motivate.