Platonic relations

When people ask me about my platonic relationships, the first thing that comes to mind is memories of a childhood friend. We always walked together, certainly holding hands, and even sometimes, on the occasion of another nightly change of someone's parents, we slept on one broad couch, peacefully snuffing everyone in our half. The persistent slogan "Tili-tili-dough!" Persecuted us everywhere; The bride and groom! "Sounded not so much mockery, as a hymn to our far-reaching plans.

So, let's understand together what the expression "platonic relations" means. Traditionally, this phrase denotes an exceptionally high love relationship, in which there is no sex at all.

If we talk about high matters, then the mother's love for the child, the feelings of the admired pupil for her teacher, the love of the Fatherland, for God can serve as excellent examples of platonic relationships.

But let us return to the love of platonic relations. Of course, there are very good reasons for such an elevation - for example, the very advanced age of a couple or some specific disease that does not allow to live a normal sex life. Here you can give a lot of examples from the classics. For example, in "Gone with the Wind" Ashley Wilks was forced to abandon sex life with his wife, because she could no longer give birth. But much more often platonic attraction is just the first step of the ascent to the sweet peak called Love. After all, true love always begins with admiration for the object of our feelings and dreams of beautiful, real and pure relationships.

The standard set of dreams about romantic love includes the presence of a knight who agrees for the sake of his lady for any feat and heroism, even the most insane. And the lady of the heart for him, of course, is an ideal and an unattainable deity, the touch of which is simply unthinkable sacrilege.

It would seem, what does this have to do with real life? Is it possible in our time to be so platonic love?

In fact, this phenomenon is quite common, especially among adolescents. It is at this age that Platonic attraction is the normal stage of the psycho-emotional development of the individual.

Probably, each of us will remember a high school student, whom she sneaked glances at school changes, and even some young, quite charismatic teacher, whose subjects attended with special trepidation. Hardly then, despite the dreams of casual touches, glances and caresses, we came to mind thoughts about banal sex.

Often at this age, it is peculiar to find yourself idols among actors, popular performers and participants in a TV show. After all, such a platonic spiritual connection at a distance as well as possible successfully realizes the need for exalted feelings and idealization of the object of their worship, but at the same time does not pretend to any result. Well, the brightness of feelings, the inaccessibility of the object of adoration will make the experience of platonic relations very memorable. Who does not remember his first love ?!

All this, of course, is terribly romantic, but psychologists point out that any platonic attraction should go to the stage of its realization, ie, to try to attract attention, remain alone, etc. This is how teens learn to communicate with the opposite sex, are preparing for the transition to adult relationships. From the successful implementation of this task depends on their entire future personal life and what it will be.

If we talk about adult healthy people, it is quite natural and normal, if with spiritual intimacy between them there will be a sexual attraction to each other. So, for example, the platonic friendship between a man and a woman has every chance to turn into love.

Of course, someone has a relationship at the stage of platonic communication last longer, someone - less. It depends on many factors: upbringing, fear of negative evaluation, fear of being burnt, passivity of character, and just too young. The main thing is that romantic dreams about Ideal do not ruin your life with an endless expectation or testing of a partner for strength. And think for yourself: no matter how much we dream about pure romance, it is knowledge that you are desirable for your man, makes us truly happy and confident in ourselves and in relationships.